I'm sorry that you're going through such a tough time.
Maybe AA is not the right setting for you to meet a woman,
Have you tried any of the online dating sites?
I am sure that there are plenty of women out there who would
like to meet someone like you.
Just need to find the right place to meet someone and to meet the right person. Good Luck

Thank you Janny. I appreciate your support. I really need to go to AA because I definitely don't want to go back to my old ways. I actually enjoy a relationship with God. And I like the self improvement. I'm just one of those guys that doesn't have the personality type that ladies are looking for. I'm sensitive by nature. So I usually don't come off as Macho. Plus I'm pretty short. And overweight due in large part to my psych meds. I just know that I've had relationships many years ago. And I was very happy to treat my partners with great respect and love. But I'm just not that good at Head Games and Small Talk. But I'll keep trying. Bless you. :)

Just checking in to see how you're doing
You seem to doubt yourself and put yourself down a lot
Nobody is perfect. Many women are truly looking for
that diamond in the rough vs. some arrogant snooty guy.
Keep the faith in yourself. Glad that AA helps

Hi Jannytheresa. Thanks for following up on me. I do yardwork during the day. So I can't always get on. I admit that I haven't been able to fully overcome my Inner Critic that I learned as a youth. The problem Is that this Inner Critic has helped me to survive in Real Time. But I've done a lot of surviving. But not enough living. I'm sure my therapist would say I'm making progress. Many years ago, I heard someone say at a Narcotics Anonymous picnic that, "Life isn't always User Friendly." I thought that was profound. I hope you are doing well. Let me know how your world is going. And I'll try to respond in a reasonable time. Bless you. :)

Hi There
Yes, the critic is always there isn't he or she. It's like mom and dad never left left and are taking up residency in our brains.
Maybe it worked to listen to those toxic messages when we were in survival mode but to move forward they will not help.
I may have mentioned that my husband has cancer. That's a chronic bummer even though he's doing well. I have lots of family drama going on and a tough job. Sometimes it's nice to chat to someone who is not caught up in the hurricane that is currently known as my life. I thank you for listening and do write bacak to let me know how you are. Janny

Hi Janny. I just got to my computer. Thanks for the message. I'm sorry you are going through all those struggles. I'm learning more and more that many people, if not most, are having a tough time these days. I'll pray for you if it's okay? I was a college student from 1987 - 1992. I made senior. But then my mental symptoms kicked in. I'm much more functional now that I'm 51. But finishing school online seems freaky and undoable to me. I've always had a fearful side. In high school, I really wanted to be a rock musician. But nothing ever came of it. I still practice my keyboard a little. But I'm definitely not a professional. Since 13, I became interested in Artificial Intelligence. However, programming Consciousness is definitely not easy. But many big companies, and even other countries are putting quite a lot of effort into. Nowadays, it feels to me like there is way too much technology in the world. I don't know. I still want to survive. Anyway, thanks again for responding. And I hopeand pray that you are able to smooth everything out in your world. Bless you Janny.

Don’t think women have it easier I’m not going to toot my own horn but I’m very conventionally attractive , yet I am extremely lonely . I have no friends , I have no one . Everybody looks from the outside out as if I’m perfect I’m not trust physical attraction does nothing for loneliness actually excavates it to creeps who want nothing but to take

Hi there. Everybody has it tough. Except the 0.1%. I'm sorry you are lonely too. The dating world is absolutely brutal. Very little altruism goes on when people are looking for relationships. Bless you. :)

One suggestion would be to go to your local park (a dog park would be even better, as lots of single ladies there, I have noticed) and start taking walks. Walk laps around the outer part of parks. This will not only help with losing some of the weight, but walking helps a person to feel better all around, including mentally.

And if you start walking there regularly, you probably will find a woman or two to have a conversation with. Just keep it friendly and casual. Don't ask any on a date right away. Just say "Hi. Nice weather today." Something simple.

Keep going for these walks. As you start losing pounds, your self esteem will go up, too.

Best wishes and good luck to you.

You're right. I'm fat and ugly. If I lose the fat, I'll still have a whole lot of ugly. God hates me. 666

No one is calling you fat or ugly. I think walking will do you a lot of good, since you said you were overweight. Losing a few pounds when overweight, helps anyone's self esteem to really go up. And the parks are places where girls go, so it also seems like a good place to meet new people, which is what I thought you were looking to do - meet new people, and a possible girlfriend - according to your post.

You don't have to do anything. But I sensed you wanted things to change up in your life.