Yes, but I was not the one who cut them off. They cut me off. I haven't talked to one side of my family almost three years now. It's hard and it hurts sometimes. mainly because my son is the one that suffers. A whole side of a family that he doesn't know because of their stupidity. I've even tried to reach out and communicate but I get no response. I've been married for almost a year and we have been together for almost eight years. I was afraid to tell them for along time because I new what the outcome would be, but you cannot live your life to make others happy.

For me no. I'm black and a musilm, my wife is white and a Christian. My family had to deal with the fact that I was with a white person. Which they did accept my wife,and they never disowned me or wanted to sperate from me. Far as my family on religion. They just taught me to be true to myself and be true to God.
My wife family had no problem with me being black they had to adjust to me because I was a muslim. They are a truly deep Christian family. Over time they accepted that and respect me. They also as well never wanted to seperate from my wife. It's all how people are and there maturity with differences. God put us here so we could know one another and not despise each other... Peace....

I cut out my entire biological mother's family. Keep in mind there were other reasons too. But I was always judged and looked down upon for dating black guys. When I finally came out and told them I was scolded and they had to sit me down and tell me how wrong it was. They said everyone would make fun of me and talk about me.

But I love the guy I am with more than anything. We have been together for 2 1/2 years. I haven't talked to that side of my family in almost three years. It has been a struggle, escpecially since on occassion I get hate mail. But I am happy and that is all that matters!

I nearly cut my father off altogether: that seems harsh, but for 17 years at the time he wasn't there-- he had left us and was the weakest part-time father there ever was. He realized quickly that his wishes for me to stay with my own race took NO priority over my wonderful boyfriend who has been there for me and loved me, and has never thought of abandoning me. Eventually, we may make peace enough for him to come to the wedding... but I was content enough to (tentatively) visit them for Christmas.

I had some family memebers that was not happy with who I was dating when they found out. But after they got to know him and see how he was with my oldest son, they were ok with everything.

reply #18,

ur family was telling you its wrong to date blk guys and will be made fun of? i thought parents teach us not to care about what others think but my god ur family sounds seem to forget their own teachings to you. i dont know why they care about what others think sounds like they got a screw loose

My mother kicked me out of the house when I was 18 because I was dating a black guy. This is the same mother who raised me to believe that everybody is equal. That was in 1965! It's a national shame we are still fighting that same battle today.

My family is fine with my husband, it's his family that doesn't like the idea he married a white woman instead of a black one. They act as though he's putting the black race down. They don't like me, never have, but I'm the one taking care of him better than any other woman ever did, why else would a "confirmed bachelor" want to marry me? We take care of each other and have never let skin color get in the way. Other people have their hang ups and at our age, there's just no time for that kind of thing. He's 59 and I'm nearly 58.
We are living a good life together and improving our relationship instead of letting what others think get in the way.

Are you going to live with your parents for the rest of your life?

My take is they're gonna get over it.. eventually. Live yours not theirs. Let them fight their own battles. Be strong

I have not had to cut any of my family members out of my life. I have found black families are more accepting of interracial unions.
I have found in my presence if they had issues I did not hear them. I would have confronted anyone. My heart knows no color and my mind does not care!

Woah. So I am in an interracial relationship (also a gay one) and I went into this support group sort of surprised it existed. Her family has been lovely to me. My family is a bit colder but that is probably because of the gay part of the relationship. It is really a shame this is still an issue.

because we live in America, it is "easier" to love someone who looks like you. it is not right, but that is the way it is. you have to be "righteous" or "courageous" to stand up for loving someone who is considered "different." if it is ok to settle for being with someone because they have the right skin color, or whatever, then that is good because you have made that trade-off. you cannot judge people. if "being safe" is more important than truly experiencing all that life has to offer, then that is ok. some people live these kinds of lives. others truly live life to the fullest. but be aware, that if you choose to do what is right, there often is a price to pay. you may cause people whom you love to expose their ignorance, and then have to choose between countenancing that ignorance or being with the one you love. for me, there is no real choice, but I respect that others may choose to take another path.

i agree with reply #27. i think too many people have these hardcore beliefs that they must stick with one particular race because "that's how it should be." too many of those lying beliefs still ingrained into people's heads and i agree about standing up for yourself and how it could expose people's ignorance.

yea i have seen/heard the stories. my ex friend who is white/latina looks nothing like a latina just a str8 up white girl told me her parents say their kids can have friendships of different races but not date/marry someone of another race. she told me the men in her family are st8 up racists her white mom didn't want her to marry her latino father and vice versa.

she told me she couldn't date outside her race what if her father and older brother didn't like it yet called herself independent! i found out she is married to a white guy and has a kid. her brother is a racist yet he has a daughter by his ex wife who is filopina and i saw her pic! i said to ex friend how can he call himself a saint yet he married someone outside his race? she got mad cuz i called him out (never met her brother met her sister) i told her i am waiting for an answer? she didnt have a good one.

his ex wife was not well liked into their family at all as she was preggo with his kid and their sister tripped her at the wedding she stumbled but caught herself. i can't grasp the part where you're taught everybody is equal but bring a guy/girl from another race then it is a problem, what has gone today with parental teachings?!

I am thankful that very few family or friends are just out-and-out ignorant or racist. having said that, a few are, but we are just able to comfortably say hi and bye because they don't want to be obvious about it. we do hear things that they say, however. my problem is more in the nature of "fears" that my white wife has about going to certain white areas where disapprovals and ignorance is openly expressed. i think this is at least partially why the economy in certain small towns and rural areas suffers so much. they could use tourism and visits from affluent minority, immigrant, and interracial families. they would also benefit in terms of education and cultural influence.

Not only am I in an interracial relationship but also in an age gap relationship. I initially faced some lack of understanding from my girlfriends, but no problems with the family. His family has always been accepting.