Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I've always considered myself and strong woman. But this is absolutely crushing me to my core.
My husband (3 years Married) is a habitual liar, cheater, spends money like it's going out of style (but not on bills, mind you).
He swept me up at the end of my last marriage (in retrospect....it was obviously too good to be true). Promised me the world, told me sweet things, only for me to find out NONE of it was true. Something that sticks in my mind these years later was when we were dating, he told me he had a guitar, and had written a song for me, but it was at the repair shop, having new strings put on....do you think I EVER saw that guitar?!? Nope. (Why is it that this is so vibrant in my mind still?)
Over that last year and a half, I've found out very solid proof, that he's been talking women, our ENTIRE relationship. And not just "good ol' friends" talking either. I've caught him trying to sneak off to see one once, showed up and crashed a dinner he was supposed to have with another one. It's just completely constant.
He told me it was MY fault that he was talking to other women because our relationship was "rocky". So you go see an escort the first chance you get when I'm out of town?!? He told me he would change. Ok...really? Nope.
Fast forward to today. He's drowning in debt, and since we're married, I'm responsible. He's opened a number of credit cards, and accounts (which I've verified I'm not on (No SSN)), and even been sued for a bill (None of this he knows that I know). He was having his wages garnished at his last job, and they just haven't "caught" on to where he is now, yet. But he spends money so crazy. Never planning for next month, or whatever, because he's not planning on paying those bills anyway.
He's also still talking to women. Still on all the dating sites.
So why can I not just kick him out?! Because he'll tell me he'll just end himself, or tell me that he will change, or tell me how much his family will hate him....He guilt trips ME for his problems!
I feel like I just can't live my life. And I know that the life I want is definately with him anymore.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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The reason it is hard to leave is he is - comfortable. Familiar. You want to believe he will change. But he has shown you in 3 years who he really is. You are a young woman, you have a whole life ahead of you to live.
He chose to do these things. He made the conscious choices to cheat on you over and over. He knew what he was doing and he wanted to do it. This is all on HIM, this has nothing at all to do with YOU. You don't even know how many times or how many women he has been with.
Cheaters lie.
My question is, why are you still with him?
More than just his debt that is now your debt that you need to be concerned about, is him bringing home HIV and other STDs and giving them to you. Some of these can kill you. Do you want these deadly diseases in your home?
What if he gets one of these affair girls pregnant? You two are married, so you will have to pay half of your money to the other woman and pay the next 18 years of their child support. The court will make you pay her and their child for 18 years. Think about that.
You need to step back and think is this how you envisioned your life to be. Is this what you want in a partner. When you got divorced before, did you want a guy like this guy? I know you didn't. I think he took advantage of you feeling vulnerable at the time and he swooped in so you could pay his bills, and you are his "side girl". He has shown such gross disrespect toward you! You have seen his true colors, and 3 years in.... you can file for divorce and get out. Chalk it up to you were in a confused mental state at the time. You know better now and you need to take action. He will bankrupt you. None of this is worth it.
You will be okay. But it's time to take those actions.