noseyparker decided that DS was not a place where she could get the support she needed to move forward with her life.

She chose to delete her member-created group rather than pass it on to someone else. Then she deleted her profile.

dammit i really liked her!

I think she left because she feared her H would read things she has written under the other identities she recently revealed that she posts under. When she revealed those other identities in this group I don't think she realized that there is no admin here that she could go to afterwards to ask that the posts be removed, which is what she has done in the CA group, so her H would not read them and find out her other identities.

I like her in the beginning too, but over time she showed a side of herself that was not very kind.

DS is a place where I can get support and move forward with my life. What I found was that there were people here who would never let go of the past and allow me to move forward within DS. Yes, I deleted my member created group rather than pass it on to someone else. It was discussed long ago and agreed upon by most of the members of that group that all posts over a week old would be deleted. At the time that I deleted the group there were no current posts so nothing was lost which wasn't expected to be deleted anyway. I deleted CO because I wanted to minimize opportunities for people to dig up my past and use it against me in the present. There was nothing posted in CO that I wouldn't let my husband see.

I revealed my other profiles, including this one, fully understanding that such a post would never be deleted. I weighed the pros and cons and made a conscious choice. For the record, these are not profiles which I continue to post under. When I was using noseyparker for posting, I kept this profile for journalling--this is where I started journalling and I didn't want to copy and paste everything into a new profile. I occasionally made the mistake of posting without realizing I had signed in to this profile, but I had no intention of deceiving anyone here. I never used an alternate profile to back up my own argument or anything like that.

Not very kind. Hmmm. I guess we all have bad days. I've come across many people around DS who have chosen to be unkind toward me. For the most part I tried to let it go. If I have been unkind to anyone here then I apologize. It was never my intention to be unkind. I have frequently disagreed and many times defended myself, as respectfully as I've been able to, but I'm not perfect.

As I've told you before.... hands down one of my favourite people on DS. x

I wouldn't call falsely accusing, attacking, name calling and cursing at someone defending yourself or making mistakes, but its all fine with me.

"falsely accusing, attacking, name calling" Yes, there were times I gave as good as I had gotten. My brother always told me 'don't dish it out if you can't take it'. I can't understand why some people think it's okay to treat me in certain ways but get their knickers in a twist when they get it back. These were the people who brought out the worst in me, kind of like the OM did. The same people who can't resist an opportunity to speak unkindly about me, even after I've stepped aside and disengaged for weeks.

As far as cursing goes, yes I have a potty mouth. People who are offended by my colorful language can put me on ignore. Or grow up and get over it. Fuck.

I've seen MANY people on DS do all of those things you mentioned over the years luv, including myself. I believe one could easily call them mistakes if they wanted to....In fact I do.

I've been mean to people and have been forgiven for it (by everyone but one person that I'm aware of), so why shouldn't other people get the same forgiveness and move on. We all have good days and bad days, and some days we lash out when we feel shoved into corners by people who won't accept we have a different viewpoint from them.

I can recall that I've even thought some of your posts (luv) have been bordering on nasty, and I didn't hold that against you.

There are many facets to people. so I try and see the good and bad in everyone and let things slide a lot more than I used to.

I have a lot of respect for the way nosey handles herself and enjoyed reading her opinions/comments. I love liberal, open minded people who are strong, educated, well spoken, well read, empathetic and speak their mind.... what can I say?

Hope to see more of her on here....

I also agree with one thing that was said in a post above.... how come it's ok for other people to attack nosey, but she is called out for reciprocating..... it's hypocritical at best.

sorry Nosey,i wasnt tryin to start any crap......just enjoyed visiting your member created group every now and then and i went to look it up and it was gone....you were also my friend and i couldnt find u in my friends list...i was worried DS deleted you...Hope everything is well with you!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry if it looks like I was starting crap italianqueen. I actually don't have a problem with anyone on this thread. We all are allowed to state our own opinions, and none of us want this to end in a slander war or anything nasty like that.

Perhaps luv and I could just respectfully agree to disagree with this ' nosey' situation. I don't want to have an argument with anybody... trust me.

Yes I think Nosey could be harsh at times, but she was only that way when she was reciprocating in response to others who were harsh with her. I think it's fair to defend oneself or get amped up when you feel you have to defend yourself. Hell, I've made that mistake a few times. I blew up recently for the first time in a long time after holding a lot of bottled up anger over the way people on CA can't seem to, or won't accept each others opinions.

Of course other people have their own perspective of this situation.

I guess that makes life interesting. Life would be boring if we all shared the same opinions.

lebe, i didnt read all the post in detail..i just saw one that was negative....and i dont think yours was that one....... i know there was sum tension between her and sum of the other members on here..i was refering to that....I personally believe every one has there own opinion and has every right to express themselves on here however they want.....But I DO disagree when people take it to far, and get mean!!! but we all know this group is made up primarily of BS and they get pissed when a CS post on here......but for me,NoseyParker was my friend and i wanted to know if any one had Bullied her off of DS....Granted i didnt get to talk to her as much as i wanted to or needed to,none the less she was stll my friend....and i hope she is doing well!!!

NP
I have been wondering where you were. your missed. I for one am glad your not gone.
I hope you jump back in. Your an intelligent lady and you do have a lot to offer.

Italianqueen
I'm glad you asked. I don't think you started any crap either.

I hope like lebe, luv and I can just agree to disagree.

Also, I am a BS.......but in my short 30 yrs (LOL) I have learned the hard way that if you want forgiveness, you have to be willing to forgive others.....im taking it day but day,but NOBODY is perfect and at least I am trying...And it really erks me when BS HATE om/ow....but they "forgive" there spouse....if you can find it in your heart to forgive the partner that broke a vow with you, i would think it would be easier to forgive the stranger!! They made no vow to you,your spouse did....and by the way it is usually the married husband that makes the first move!!! this crap about "she seduced me" is BULLSHIT!!! the man 9 times outa 10 is the aggressor..but the BS on this site wanna blame the OP....which i understand,cause i like to live in fairytail land also..I love to tell myself my Hubby wasnt pretending to not be married, or seperated from me or divorced..or feeding her crap about what a horrible person i am and make her feel sorry for him...there is no telling what he told those poor women....yet i choose to forgive him.....so why hate her??? she didnt screw me over, he did!!! every one makes mistakes, its what you do to fix them and not repeat them in the future is what counts....screw me over once, shame on you, screw me over twice, im gettin the house , the car,the kids, childsupport on 2 ,and what ever else i can do to make myself as happy as i could possibly be!!

Yep, unfortunately there is a lot of tension between members. There is tension and sometimes the bubble bursts and sometimes we type before we think..

I'd hate to see us all get too cliquey. I try and apologise when I feel I'm out of line and
become nasty. For me participating in 'CA and infidelity is teaching me an important lesson to try and view life from perspectives other than my own and those close to me.

I love DS... And I love that she's back. I was also worried she got chased off. I hope we can all play nice!