That's terrible of him! I am so sorry you are going through this... again.

Cheaters lie. Cheaters don't usually change. They just go underground.

Go to a good divorce lawyer. You need a consultation. You are entitled to a lot of his money, especially since the divorce will be because of his repeated infidelity. You need to find out how much monthly alimony you will get, half his retirement account, the house, child support (do you have minor children?). I know it's a lot to think about, but the attorney will take care of everything. You will need money to live on, so don't go easy on him.

You are not powerless in all of this. Now is the time to take action, to fight for yourself.

He will never change. And you can't change another person. He is CHOOSING to do this, to cheat, to lie, to ruin his marriage and disrespect you.

Please get tested for all STDs.

Instead of feeling sad, be mad. Go get that attorney. Show your soon-to-be ex that you are not going to sit there and be his doormat.

You can do this. At least you can walk away knowing that you tried everything possible to save the marriage. None of this is about you. This is all on him, Take him to court.

I am so sorry that you are here again and in this much pain again. I know that this pain is so terrible, but remember how strong you were... you made it through it before and you will make it through this pain again. You should be so proud of yourself... you chose to give someone the ultimate gift of forgiveness from his infidelity... which is no easy task. You gave it your all... He failed... Wake up each day knowing that... wake up each day knowing that this is not your fault,,... wake up each day knowing that you are loved.. because you are. I will pray for you and hope that you find peace in the coming weeks ahead. Blessings to you.

Thank you for your support. I will take the steps to file for divorce. Right now I am trying to pick up the pieces of the life I have known for the last 19 years. After all of the heartbreak, I can still say I love this man. I always will. But I also need to love myself MORE. To love my children MORE. And have faith that my kids and I will be okay.

I too am married to a cheater, for 26 years. He is having another affair, I found out on Thanksgiving. It took me several days to face the shock, grief and pain of it, and now I am coping better, Sadly, not my first time at this rodeo. Have you heard of Divorce Care? It is a Christian based support group for people separated or divorced. I have been through the program 3 times and it helped each time. Every person there got divorced because their spouse cheated! I was the only one not yet divorced because of it, but I needed the support. Look them up, they meet everywhere. Best to you...

Hello. I seem to remember you from Christmastime 3 years ago when I was on here getting support for my horrible experience of discovering my BF of 15 years was cheating on me with 2 women who were best friends, in the middle of my having a broken wrist and breast cancer.. I am so very sorry this has happened to you again, but you seem like you have your head screwed on right, even if your heart is broken, and that is a great first step. I wish you all the success and healing you so deserve, and a great life starting in 2021. You just need to keep believing, like I have learned to do, that you did not cause his behavior, nothing you did or said or didn't do or didn't say, or who you were or who you weren't. In fact, it seems to me that you went above and beyond the call of duty to forgive him and to trust him again. That was a HUGE and hard gift that apparently he did not appreciate. You will find on your journey ahead that you will have a lot of support; keep surrounding yourself with those who can assist you and love you. The upshot of my sad story is that my BF never really showed the remorse he should have nor did the heavy lifting to make me feel loved and that I could trust him again; he just wanted me to forget about it and swore he would never do it again, all the while nitpicking me and seeming depressed. He was also a lifelong alcoholic and smoker in the last stages of addiction, and he apparently got Covid, and died early last spring a week after one of the mistresses died. I think drugs were involved in both their deaths, but I will never really know. I did find out he had still been seeing her, probably for drugs, and that he had also seen the other woman on occasion; and all that year, I believed it all had ended like he told me time and again. And he had also been chatting up three separate women at his local bar. Once a cheater, always a cheater was the way worked with him. Have a blessed Christmas/holiday. You and your children are going to be fine.