Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Moving on or staying ???

dalegribble43
dalegribble43

It has been 2 years since i first found out that my wife of 11 years cheated on me, i still am not over it and it consumes me, we are still together but things are not like they were when we first married and i know they say things change. I just dont know what to do, on one hand i can stay for my son and live in this hurt or i can leave but if i leave will it still consume me or will it be easier to get over it being apart

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
As people have posted in your other thread, you can try therapy, or talk to a pastor, etc. A good therapist can really help you put your thoughts together and make a plan on how to deal with this.

We can't tell you to leave or not. Only you know that. You could try a trial separation. See how that makes you feel.
catch_the_music
catch_the_music
Has your wife come to you and been really sorry over what she did? Is she transparent about her life now - letting you in on what she is doing and who she is talking to? A Pastor or counselor can help you with this. Also there are good Christian based marriage seminars that have helped others. One I like is called "Weekend to Remember". It gives a higher view on marriage which helps couples gain a fresh perspective and then reconcile. Hope that helps. God Bless!
tlosb767
tlosb767
Is your wife in or has ever sought treatment for anything? I’m becoming more aware of additional behavior that’s the root of the betrayal. I’m dealing with a lot Rt now!
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