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Masturabtion 101

Silentlies25
Silentlies25
Is masturbating or jerking off while in a relationship considered cheating. Men need to ejaculate every so often or it actual causes a negative effect on their body and their minds. I'm curious if it means infidelity to woman if a guy masturbates, even if he still gives plenty of sex to his partner as well. What if he keeps it a secret from his lover, should he tell her about it?
rmb
rmb
Most dudes want more than they're getting. My husband and I are intimate a LOT, more than most couples our age I suspect (we're in our late 40s) and he literally pouts if something comes up where we miss a day or two. I mean if he could have sex several times a day, every day, he'd be content... maybe. Me, I think I'm being more than generous. But it's something we discuss with each other and revisit quite a bit. Women and men usually have different sex drives, and it can change throughout the relationship, due to age, stress, etc.

I don't think the issue is really the number of days you have sex. It's more about why you feel like it's not enough, why you think you need more and why you feel you have to prevent something from going on outside your relationship. You have to communicate with your partner. That's an important part of intimacy between you two as well, as important as sex.

I don't know what classifies one as truly being a sex addict. I'd leave that to a therapist to determine. So I hope you see someone to help you navigate through what you're feeling and doing so you know what's healthy and how to get there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you definitely need help. Seems you might be headed in the direction my boyfriend headed. All I can reiterate is to talk about it with your wife. I think therapy will help. There definitely is a problem going on in your relationship and it seems your masturbation is at an unhealthy level. A therapist can definitely help you.

http://saa-recovery.org/IsSAAForYou/AreYouASexAddict/
distancemj
distancemj
You should be lucky that your wife gives you sex 3-4 times a week. In my opinion that is far more than necessary.
Silentlies25
Silentlies25
Thank you rmb that definitely helped clear my head about things a little bit. Also, thanks littleone88 you helped a lot as well.

I guess I'm feeling a bit confused about all this since I'm also a newly wed which maybe I should have prefaced from the start but I didn't want that to be the guiding point that people were going off of to make their opinions or advice.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
Don't confuse sex with intimacy. You need to talk to your wife.
Silentlies25
Silentlies25
It's her cousin and i don't think any one of my friends has actually seen any of the videos as i don't reveal her porn name but you are still probably more on the correct side.

I believe that sex is more apart of intimacy than it isn't. It's just a part of the whole
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