Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
So I was upset today because my husband transferred money out of our joint account into his without asking. We have an agreement that when it is our joint money, we would always respect eachother and ask. It was only $30 but I know it was for him to spend on the OW. So I got upset, and texted him "Why don't you stay there tonight? Thanks for respecting me enough to ask to transfer money to spend on your whore. Please just stop hurting me and leave me alone"
Well he texted me back "Sorry for that honey, I would have told you but I had to transfer for gas today, I will stay here tonight and please don't be mean and name call it's not fair, I love you and miss you good night and sweet dreams" I wrote back " I love you but you love her more, I can't do this anymore. I am sorry, but someone who sleeps with a married man is a whore"
His response; Stop it, I love you don't be like that"
Me: Its the truth, I am not enough, I am not argueing
him: I will talk to you tomorrow sweetie, please sleep well
me: we can through mediation or arbitration , its amicable
him: Are you kidding me, that is rediculous
me we can talk tomorrow
him alright baby, I love you and I miss you good night
So why is it wrong of me to call a whore a whore? I mean she is sleeping with my husband, and what kills me is she thinks they are in a relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, and so does he. When will they wake up and realize, that you can't be in a relationship with a married man, thats being a mistress.. and its called having an affair.
He doesn't like me mentioning divorcing.. but really, what does he expect?
Anyway.. just venting... and wondering if you guys really think I am wrong for calling her a whore...
I mean hello pot, meet kettle??
right???
Well he texted me back "Sorry for that honey, I would have told you but I had to transfer for gas today, I will stay here tonight and please don't be mean and name call it's not fair, I love you and miss you good night and sweet dreams" I wrote back " I love you but you love her more, I can't do this anymore. I am sorry, but someone who sleeps with a married man is a whore"
His response; Stop it, I love you don't be like that"
Me: Its the truth, I am not enough, I am not argueing
him: I will talk to you tomorrow sweetie, please sleep well
me: we can through mediation or arbitration , its amicable
him: Are you kidding me, that is rediculous
me we can talk tomorrow
him alright baby, I love you and I miss you good night
So why is it wrong of me to call a whore a whore? I mean she is sleeping with my husband, and what kills me is she thinks they are in a relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, and so does he. When will they wake up and realize, that you can't be in a relationship with a married man, thats being a mistress.. and its called having an affair.
He doesn't like me mentioning divorcing.. but really, what does he expect?
Anyway.. just venting... and wondering if you guys really think I am wrong for calling her a whore...
I mean hello pot, meet kettle??
right???
and YES she isn't a whore... and I didn't expect people to get all dictionary-esque on me.... I was really only venting.... and in the end I stopped calling her a whore, which I only did once... and started calling her "future wife" instead.... so I am not a complete mean person...
and come to find out this isn't the first married man she has slept with.. maybe the first one she has "fallen in love" with... and no, that still doesn't make her a whore.... broken moral compass, perhaps... whore not so much...
again, sixty one replies later... I really am sorry it caused such a stir in people... I was just venting...
As I said in a similar post, let's take away the Webster dictionary crap and understand what bs mean when they call the ow a whore. They mean she is a cheap trick who didn't have to sell anything. She freely gave it away to a married man with little to no regard for the family being destroyed.
The cs gets their fair share of blame too but the ow certainly deserves to be thought of as a whore or anything else by the wife whose marriage has been infiltrated.
We are all woman and yes we all fall in love and can't help falling inlove but we can control how we respond to those emotions as well as respect the sanctity of marriage. If we are supposed to be woman understanding woman then we should also respect the vows of the marriage.
This thread deffinitely brings up a lot of opinions and emotions. I for one thank you for it. It is interesting to see how easily some woman can justify sleeping with another woman's husband and refusing to be referred to as a whore.
So if it makes you feel better to use the whore whore or skank or slut, then go for it but remember to also work on moving away from the anger and take the power back. The longer you allow the anger to boil over the longer the ow has that power that belongs to you.
Personally, I think it's kind of rude for people to hijack threads and start their own agenda. If they have something off topic they'd like to discuss they should start their own thread.
I'm glad you're 'roaring' and taking back your life!! You go girl!