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Is it wrong to call the OW a whore?

myblvdofdreams
myblvdofdreams
So I was upset today because my husband transferred money out of our joint account into his without asking. We have an agreement that when it is our joint money, we would always respect eachother and ask. It was only $30 but I know it was for him to spend on the OW. So I got upset, and texted him "Why don't you stay there tonight? Thanks for respecting me enough to ask to transfer money to spend on your whore. Please just stop hurting me and leave me alone"

Well he texted me back "Sorry for that honey, I would have told you but I had to transfer for gas today, I will stay here tonight and please don't be mean and name call it's not fair, I love you and miss you good night and sweet dreams" I wrote back " I love you but you love her more, I can't do this anymore. I am sorry, but someone who sleeps with a married man is a whore"

His response; Stop it, I love you don't be like that"

Me: Its the truth, I am not enough, I am not argueing

him: I will talk to you tomorrow sweetie, please sleep well

me: we can through mediation or arbitration , its amicable

him: Are you kidding me, that is rediculous

me we can talk tomorrow

him alright baby, I love you and I miss you good night

So why is it wrong of me to call a whore a whore? I mean she is sleeping with my husband, and what kills me is she thinks they are in a relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, and so does he. When will they wake up and realize, that you can't be in a relationship with a married man, thats being a mistress.. and its called having an affair.

He doesn't like me mentioning divorcing.. but really, what does he expect?

Anyway.. just venting... and wondering if you guys really think I am wrong for calling her a whore...

I mean hello pot, meet kettle??

right???
deleted_user
deleted_user
No it's not wrong. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, then typically it's a duck.

Your H is never going to stop toying with you as long as you let him. I know you love him but he's kind of taking advantage. I think you need to stop threatening him and just stay away and lawyer up. It will either knock him off the fence and decide to dump the whore or you'll be done. Either way you're better off. Seriously, I hate to be harsh that's how I see it.

Sending support.
myblvdofdreams
myblvdofdreams
No I agree completely which is why tomorrow my side of the conversation will be about moving forward towards a divorce. Basically there are three people in this marriage and one of us needs to see our way out. If its not her, then it is going to be me. I am sticking to my guns and saying enough is enough.
myblvdofdreams
myblvdofdreams
No I agree completely which is why tomorrow my side of the conversation will be about moving forward towards a divorce. Basically there are three people in this marriage and one of us needs to see our way out. If its not her, then it is going to be me. I am sticking to my guns and saying enough is enough.
veryhurtOC
veryhurtOC
No your not wrong. You have my support. I refer to the OM in my situation " a piece of shit". This is what I call him in front of
my W and MC. Sending you support and hugs!!!
veryhurtOC
veryhurtOC
No your not wrong. You have my support. I refer to the OM in my situation " a piece of shit". This is what I call him in front of
my W and MC. Sending you support and hugs!!!
veryhurtOC
veryhurtOC
No your not wrong. You have my support. I refer to the OM in my situation " a piece of shit". This is what I call him in front of
my W and MC. Sending you support and hugs!!!
veryhurtOC
veryhurtOC
No your not wrong. You have my support. I refer to the OM in my situation " a piece of shit". This is what I call him in front of
my W and MC. Sending you support and hugs!!!
veryhurtOC
veryhurtOC
No your not wrong. You have my support. I refer to the OM in my situation " a piece of shit". This is what I call him in front of
my W and MC. Sending you support and hugs!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see why you would refer to her as a whore. I would say the same thing. But, I gotta few names for your H as well. Out of respect, I won't say them toyou....... but you know what I mean?

Ppl are able to accept things in their minds they never thought they could b4 they started crossing boundaries. He has gone too far, I think you need to start moving on w/ your life and stop making him the center of your world.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see why you would refer to her as a whore. I would say the same thing. But, I gotta few names for your H as well. Out of respect, I won't say them toyou....... but you know what I mean?

Ppl are able to accept things in their minds they never thought they could b4 they started crossing boundaries. He has gone too far, I think you need to start moving on w/ your life and stop making him the center of your world.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see why you would refer to her as a whore. I would say the same thing. But, I gotta few names for your H as well. Out of respect, I won't say them toyou....... but you know what I mean?

Ppl are able to accept things in their minds they never thought they could b4 they started crossing boundaries. He has gone too far, I think you need to start moving on w/ your life and stop making him the center of your world.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see why you would refer to her as a whore. I would say the same thing. But, I gotta few names for your H as well. Out of respect, I won't say them toyou....... but you know what I mean?

Ppl are able to accept things in their minds they never thought they could b4 they started crossing boundaries. He has gone too far, I think you need to start moving on w/ your life and stop making him the center of your world.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see why you would refer to her as a whore. I would say the same thing. But, I gotta few names for your H as well. Out of respect, I won't say them toyou....... but you know what I mean?

Ppl are able to accept things in their minds they never thought they could b4 they started crossing boundaries. He has gone too far, I think you need to start moving on w/ your life and stop making him the center of your world.
Wonderous
Wonderous
I called my husbands other woman a prostitute cuz she accepted gifts and money for sex but wouldn't give commit. So yeah like someone say: if it walks like a duck....I also got on mine for defending her so much. Kept asking him to choose who was worth fighting with and who was worth fighting for bc I got so sick of him defending her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I call my husband's ex mistress "Satan's whore" and the other colleagues he's been over familiar with( sexual innuendo etc.) whores- they all know he's married with kids but they (and he,it turns out!) have no morals. Any woman who messes with married men is whore in my opinion.