Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My husband has cheated on me repeatedly in the 10 years we've been together (7 married). He left me and came back 2.5 years ago and is now leaving again. The amount of pain I feel is downright physical, my heart actually hurts.
Among the things that happened, he cheated with a girl who he left me for while I was pregnant (working a full time job, full time student and opened a business for us) She got pregnant 2 months after me. I got into an accident and lost my baby boy she had hers. He came home 2 months after I lost the baby and didn't attend the birth of the other kid. He agreed to be open and honest and discuss how we got into this mess etc. He did none of those things. For the first 6 months he was home I didn't say a word about it but then I started getting impatient on getting closure and pressing him to talk and he refused. He never changed anything and went right back to doing the same old stuff. He met a girl online and started a "romance" on social media (I am not allowed access to his social media, not even as a connection) of course I heard about it and mentioned it to him and he confirmed it and told me it's because i'm "mean" he then left for work and met her for the first time and has now met her twice in person but "loves" her enough to leave me. I am devastated and struggling to cope. 2 days ago was the first anniversary of losing my mom suddenly and he can't even find any kindness for me at the moment. I feel alone and sadly I love this man still although it he doesn't love me.
I'm terrified for the end of my marriage, when he left the last time his las words to me were "I love you and I will be back" but now he assures that he will never be back. How will I make it though this alone?
Among the things that happened, he cheated with a girl who he left me for while I was pregnant (working a full time job, full time student and opened a business for us) She got pregnant 2 months after me. I got into an accident and lost my baby boy she had hers. He came home 2 months after I lost the baby and didn't attend the birth of the other kid. He agreed to be open and honest and discuss how we got into this mess etc. He did none of those things. For the first 6 months he was home I didn't say a word about it but then I started getting impatient on getting closure and pressing him to talk and he refused. He never changed anything and went right back to doing the same old stuff. He met a girl online and started a "romance" on social media (I am not allowed access to his social media, not even as a connection) of course I heard about it and mentioned it to him and he confirmed it and told me it's because i'm "mean" he then left for work and met her for the first time and has now met her twice in person but "loves" her enough to leave me. I am devastated and struggling to cope. 2 days ago was the first anniversary of losing my mom suddenly and he can't even find any kindness for me at the moment. I feel alone and sadly I love this man still although it he doesn't love me.
I'm terrified for the end of my marriage, when he left the last time his las words to me were "I love you and I will be back" but now he assures that he will never be back. How will I make it though this alone?
Now he has insisted that he be "paid" a salary from the business I opened for us (I am not paid from it) because "we are different now" but he uses none of that money to contribute to the household we live in, he eats out everyday (while I eat nothing by choice because I'm sad) and goes out with his friends. I have done what he asked and I don't speak to him at all not even hello, I try not to look at him when we are in the business together and I drive him home at night in complete silence, and then I go in my room and try to cry quietly so as not to bother him.
I feel hopeless, alone, desperate, inadequate, lonely, unworthy of love or even kindness, silenced, humiliated, shame, failure, anxiety, invisible and small. I couldn't think of a single positive thing in my life currently. I often think all would be better off if I was gone.
I guess he kind of knows I am to weak at the moment from lack of food or sleep to say anything to him about moving out and he knows I don't really want him to. I get it I'm an idiot for letting him have all the power I just don't know how to take any back or if I even want to. I don't even want to fight for myself.
You are the only one who CAN fight for yourself.
You are no part of him making bad decisions, but until you understand that and start caring for yourself and taking steps to be stronger, no one can help you. Find a therapist, a friend, or someone to talk to and find something that you care about, since you do not care about you right now.
I wish you strength to find your voice.
2nd chance (if not more) and he blew him. Delete him forever from your phone and other media. Horrible human being...no remorse is the worst!
my husband says the same thing to me and i am not mean i do stand up for myself but am not mean . i know he says this crap to justify his behavior that i have chose to put up with for 22 years all the drinking and drugs and jail time i stuck through it all with him then the bastard cheated on me after being together for 22 years no it was not a mistake it was another bad choice he made and i caught him he was texting her sitting right beside me at nights and evenings she is a dope head like him they actually deserve each other i just dont want to start over but everytime i look at him i want to knock his head off he makes me sick at times even though i do love him all at the same time