From someone who was the "cheater" in my marriage, your posts are highly insensitive and borderline sociopathic. Seems to me your lover is in the same boat, and maybe you two are perfect for each other in that sense. My guess is you'll be back on this board crying and wanting advice when you find out he's still sleeping with his wife.

Ha ha what a joke, you say " he did the right thing" by filing a divorce yes after he cheated the crap out of her! How is it a good thing his wife is ruined heartbroken and his kids are now in a ripped family.
NO-ONE WILL BE HAPPY FOR YOU on this forum so stop asking for that. You are both cheaters and narcissists. You have hurt way to many people along the way. You had so many good advice from this forum and all you reply is selfish bullshit. You you you you you. Tgats all I hear for you. Try thinking of other people for ONCE it might actually bring you some new meaning to your life.
Good riddance and like I said see you back in a couple months crying on here because your handsome serial cheater cheated on you boohoo.
I feel so tremendously said for all the kids involved. It's sad to know how some people don't put their kids needs above their own genital needs. Sad very sad

"said how he had never stoped thinking of me and I had changed him forever. He didn't know how I would react or that we would pick up as though we had seen each other last week. He never thought things would move as fast as they have and he is just not quite in the position to leave her! Well that is what he tells me and I believe him.... I have to!!"

YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE HIM and WHY? How did this rule come up and what is its purpose except to not be available for the truth. This man was not totally clear about his conditions. He certainly does know exactly what he has done and moving swiftly is how those operations work. This is not a unique story. It is the usual. Many people have experience with the lying person who pulls the wool over their eyes all the while being able to draw in through targeting a persons needs and vulnerabilities. You may not be able to believe this today but one day , better sooner then later, that this has to be realized. Cads like this are actually common. Real truth is that this guy has a history of this and that you do not know by his voice box.

When I was 17, I picked up a relationship with an older man from Germany. I fell so hard for him, and like you said, it wasn't always sex. It was the walks we took, the conversations. It was everything. After I had turned 18, I thought we would get more serious, but I noticed how many times he had an excuse to leave early or not meet up. I soon found out he had a girlfriend of three years! I was pissed off! I never in my life wanted to be the other woman, I had known too many women who were cheated on and it disgusted me. But here I was, the very thing I hated. I didn't want to leave him still though. But eventually our time together became less magical and less fun. Every time he left, I knew he was going back home to her. His poor clueless girlfriend. One time, I asked for his history with her, and he told me that she used to be his other woman, that he met her while dating someone else and she followed him to America. When he told me that, it just hit me that he was a bad guy. I then decided I couldn't do this.
We remained weird friends, and I saw that he just cheats, he's a serial cheater. I think me being the other woman was karma because a couple years later, I was cheated on. My advice to you is to move on. No limits, no ultimatums, just leave him. If he was serious about leaving his wife and being a good man, he would have looked for you after a divorce.

I think we all need to calm down. The person is obviously a TROLL and we need to stop feeding her. I'm guessing the whole story is fictional.