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Unsure about Sex

anonymouse
anonymouse

I'm 17, and have been with the same guy for almost 3 years.  I told him in the beginning that I planned on staying abstinent and he has always respected that. We've done a few things but never actually had sex. Call me a hypocrite, but despite our fooling around I feel like sex before marriage is wrong because of our religious beliefs. 


The problem is that I told him I was staying abstinent when we were 14. Waiting years when you love someone so much is so so hard...I still want to wait but at the same time I'm finding it harder and harder to ignore that voice that's saying "maybe it wouldn't be too bad to just give in"


Basically, I'm asking for help to stay abstinent. We made it this long, I'd hate to have wasted all this time for nothing...

koolman
koolman
This board is for adults 18 and over honey.
guitarman79
guitarman79
That's great You plan on staying a abstinent, I think, this is one of those situation's where, You should listen to Your Heart.

Maybe, go see a counselor,

Good luck! hope You work it out
Andy66
Andy66
Do you have a youth leader/pastor you trust who you can talk to? It's easy to get advice here, but there's no guarantee that advice will reflect the things that are most important to you. Besides, if you have someone who loves you, prays for you, and is there when you really need someone to talk to, that's got to be better than an anonymous group like this, don't you think? Nobody here is going to hold you when you cry.
deelishuz247
deelishuz247
Continue on your journey of abstinence. If your boyfriend plan on making you his wife in the future then he will wait for the "goodies". If your faith is your reason for abstinence stick to your guns. Your boyfriend has waited this long so he should be use to loving you without the sexual piece. If he can't respect your faith and your decisions then he may not be the one for you. Good Luck
sexysub56
sexysub56
By abstinent do you mean any and all sexual activity, like passionate kissing, intimate touching, etc.? I respect your decision, even if I don't understand it. Are you involved in the purity movement which is an unusual system of daughters promising to be pure and their fathers pledging to keep them pure.

I find this odd, and somewhat disturbing. But if you are serious about remaining a virgin until your wedding night, the less physical contact you have the easier it will be.
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