Rape and hopefully she's strong enough to report it! I'm a rape survivor who was too scared to report it.

Rape or sexual assault

Thanks girls.

She cannot report it as there's no evidence to back up her claims.

She can do the rape kit, just tell her do it immediately.

He didn't cause any significant injuries. All he has to do to create doubt is say it was just rough sex and she never said or tried to stop him. It's his word against hers. She's not going to report him.

It's often a case of her word against his. It can still be reported. That's a choice.

Where she lives she cannot just report it. She also has to be willing to go with the prosecution. She is not prepared to go with the prosecution.

Yes Rape.
And it sounds like she is going to let him get away with it as well.

Big hug RisingStar.... I am so sorry she had to go through such a terrible assault ... She can speak up if she chooses to.... Even if this man is questioned by police it will put him on notice and maybe he's done this before....I hope that she will at least talk to her doctor for her sake and perhaps be referred for some therapy to help her work though the pain of being sexually assaulted.... I hope she knows that this is not her fault....xo

It happened to me 26 years ago when I was 14. It would've been my word against his as well. I didn't go through with it because I was in so much shock and disbelief that it happened to me. I sat in my bathtub for 3 hours because I felt so dirty and I wanted be "clean" again. The woman that gave birth to me told me I deserved it and so she was my only support system, who was never there for me, so I just went to school the next day like nothing happened. As you can see the pain is still here and every November 9th I cry like a baby like it just happened because you learn to live with it and move on but you never forget it. I understand she doesn't want to go through being put on the stand because yes his lawyer will make her feel like s**t under her shoe, but just tell her think about if she doesn't speak up he'll probably do it to another woman, just something to think about. If there were no statute of limitations on rape I would've come forward! Tell your friend you'll be there for her and have the courage to do so!

I went through this, but I was married to the asshole. It happened daily. I finally got the courage to divorce him, after 7 years. I consider it rape, as well. If you clearly say no- or stop.... or don't etc... they should listen. end of story.

It is rape and he is a piece of shit. Tell to find good men to beat the shit out of him! No real man would do such a thing to a woman. Where I was brought up if any of the decent guys found out some POS did this they would meet a very violent ass whooping!

Rape. You can withdraw consent at ANY TIME, even during.

It was rape. I don't know if there is any protection from the law for this, but I think at this point the most important thing to do is to protect sanity.
There needs to be counseling and closure so when there is sex with someone else, there will not be flash backs and fear.
I was raped also when I was 16, not by a stranger on the street thankfully ...
What helped me move on was accepting accountability for the situation. I didn't deserve to be raped, but if I made better choices, it probably wouldn't have happened.
Assuming some possibly of control over the situation made me feel less like a victim and more like a survivor of a very unfortunate event.

I had posted it to get opinions in order to make sure I wasn't misinterpreting what had happened. Another part of me hoped for different perspectives so I could avoid dealing with it. All your responses accelerated my acceptance of it for what it is...

I am taking responsibility for it. Maybe a bit too much.. it's bordering on self-blame, but I try to pull myself up to regain balance.

Today I had found the courage to face him, but I had to ask a guy friend of mine to come with me - just couldn't face him by myself.

He works in a local shop, and he served me. I couldn't even look at him, but I managed to keep my s*** together. Only when I was leaving, I felt like I was about to pass out. Thank god my friend was there, he was so supportive. I want to be able to visit the shop with confidence. Who knows however long that will take, but I must overcome this terror.