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Hi,
What are you thoughts on when you're with someone he strikes up a conversation with the opposite sex off the street? Yesterday his motorhome broke down on a busy street. After 3 hrs I finally said lets get it towed. We were sitting in my car and he had his window down. Then he started talking to a girl on the sidewalk. It bothered me. Because why? Well I went to help him where my mother just minutes before got out of the hospital. He called while we were helping my mom to her bed at home. So when she was safe I apologized and said I have to go help the guy I'm living with. So anyways I asked him why he felt the need to strike up a conversation with another girl while sitting in my car waiting for a tow truck. He said he just wanted to make her day better. I said what about focusing your attention on the girl you're with. To myself I'm saying you know I dropped everything to help him for three hours. He took my car to get some tools while I waited at the motorhome. Plus I paid for the towing. Plus when he bought the motorhome I helped finacially almost $2000 that he didn't pay back. Shouldn't his attention be towards me and trying to make me happy?
I told him it doesn't make sense why he felt he needed to make her day better. He said maybe you should look at the real reason why it bothers you. So he throws it all back into my face saying I have the problem.
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Are you guys?
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my ptsd is a little more active today. Had two triggers before noon. One was a new Maintenance person invading my personal space and the second was some off colored joking by a coworker that hit on my nerves. I try really hard not to let sexual innuendo joking bother me most of the time but right after the other trigger , it kind of retriggered me. So my biggest hurdle today so far has been...
Men are deadbeats. They only act like men for a certain kind of fake perfect woman that doesn't take care of them and likes abuse.
What? Can you please explain?
All different types of behaviour can ?? be shown at times by both men and women ….. I know some both great guys and great gals....
We don't bash anyone on DS
Choose yourself over turds. You’ll win every time.
There are signs that the relationship is not healthy. Maybe codependent to a degree. Just my opinion. You can take it or leave it.
Maybe take a look at why it makes you so angry. Of course we didn't see or hear the conversation. My husband has women friends he even talks to on the phone. I am not concerned about it at all bc I am secure in our relationship. He has women friends on FB. I know they are friends from high school or ppl I might even know. I don't suspect anything is going on. I have men friends. I tell him when I talk or chat w/ my men friends. They are just friends.
We were in our forties when we met and married. We had previous relationships. I am friends with his ex wife and we go eat with her when she is in town. She's a wonderful lady. If they were meant to be together, they would be.
If a man is going to cheat, they sure enough will if they feel possessed or controlled. That always backfires. They do not like to feel threatened. What was wrong with making someone else feel happy ? He can do that and give you attention as well. We are dimensional. We have more relationships than just a spouse.
I hope u find resolution.
G.
No one thinks you deserved to be abused by your ex husband and no one thinks you deserve to be disrespect by your current partner.
You have strength and perseverance to leave an abusive husband but you also now choose to be with someone who emotionally mistreats you by saying nasty things and completely disregards your feelings. Your partner’s behavior is rotten and I’m not blaming you for his behavior. That’s on him. But, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask yourself what is the rational for you staying knowing full well he has no desire to change. That part is on you. That’s what I’m trying to say. We teach people how to treat us.
I’m not trying to hurt you and I hope you hear that my intention is well meaning.
Physical and Emotional Abuse
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/physical-emotional-abuse
This is help for people who can't afford different types of healthcare including therapy so there are some resources..... This post was started a long time ago and added to over time
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/bipolar-disorder/discussion/advice-link-for-free-health-care-homeless?page=3
These are different crisis hotlines
https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/articles/207430776-What-if-I-need-emergency-help-
There is help for you and your daughter to get to a better place if you're in a bad one now
Shelters are a good place to help you to the next good place if you decide your marriage is a not healthy for you...…. Gentle hug.....xo