Healthy Relationships Support Group
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You have to excuse me. I am incredibly curious. I was reminded of the "five minute fly" by by someone else in SEXLESS MARRIAGE . Over there..... there are a few who may occasionally get that , but little else. (I have been even more deprived and gotten nothing for WAY TOO LONG.)
In that group, after so long of being disregarded and untouched (often feeling punished) by our SOs it seems more important to share more than that (or a "closet quickie" or a "nooner") I have discovered men and women both often crave affection , attention, and to actually feel loved and connected. (I always thought it was just a woman thing.)
What I do wonder is how do most of you feel on the subject? I am one of those romantics who wants someone who's got more than 5 minutes to get his rocks off and put a very quick (but brief) smile on my face. Foreplay (for both of us),some snuggling and maybe a little pillow talk...any would be very welcomed. My entire life I have only been with three men (for the most part, all were5 minute men) so I never really was lucky enough to enjoy the full effect of the anticipation and build up of sexual tension before sharing something so special with someone.
For the rest of the free world, if you are in a relationship or simply finding an occasional connection to satisfy your needs.... I am curious what is enough for you? And do you ever crave more? Or amI the only hopeless fool who does fantasize of too much far too late?
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Look at what my best friend did with my picture!
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
I have wasted so much time holding back,... and settling. i am on a mission now to hopefully do and discover all that i have missed.
First, thanks for the comments on ‘damaged’. Personally I have become painfully aware of the reasons for my lack of sex marriage. It is far more complicated than I thought. I had to lower my fears( that I hadn’t even been aware of) and eat some humble pie to start to understand. But now that I have a starting point I’m finding it pretty exciting. And liberating. So if LL and I can’t get to the bottom of our issues I still believe I could have a healthy relationship someday. I know what I want now and the maturity helps. I also know what pitfalls to avoid.
While I have been deprived of affection for years and has caused considerable damage. Only recently have I been able to move past the pain by educating myself on why we slid into our rut. So armed with some wisdom now I know what I truly want. Because for me just saying ‘I want sex’, has evolved into I want sex with a woman who wants it as much as I do and will show me with affection. Also to feel a bond deep intimacy. So queen what I am getting to is that I want it all!!! Days of it to start with. And don’t stop. It’s been a while, can you tell?? I also believe that we think about it more because it’s been so long, almost an obsession from the wait. So no more quickies ( well maybe), I want to ‘draw it out’ that’s what I’ve been dying for. Just pure yummy sex for hours. Guess I’m a hopeless fool too