Finallyawakenow I think said it well: some pretty life- wise members in this group. But if you are thinking what members express here is some kind of mandate or gospel, about you or your situation, you are mistaken. No one here is an expert, nor do they know you. They are just sharing based on their own experiences, ideas, beliefs, perceptions and interpretation of what is being conveyed.

But because we all have our own individual experiences, perceptions, hang ups, biases, etc, you will find the opinions can be quite different among members. I think that diversity creates space for considering different points of view which can be helpful.

For me, when it comes to being available to friends, if someone I know is going through something I try to make myself available and support them but conversely, I don’t share a lot of details when there are bumps in the road in my personal life and I don’t like commiserating. My point in saying this is to show that just because someone doesn’t take a “quid pro quo” approach to sharing or interaction doesn’t mean the person isn’t trustworthy. It’s sometimes just a personality thing or they are trying to set some boundaries for themselves.

You get to decide how much you want to share with her too. That’s the bottom line. There is nothing inherently wrong with creating friendships with coworkers because that is where we spend the most time interacting with other adults. I’ve been working closely with my some of my coworkers in some cases for years, and yes, people definitely share personal information with their coworkers. It’s not really that taboo. With that said, there is the chance of gossip. It comes with the territory. Like any relationship, we have to use our judgement to determine if it’s a friendship based on shared interests, comradery, need, convenience, etc. There is no judgement in any of those reasons, just something I think everyone should evaluate when we are questioning a friendship.

Honestly I think your problems are too much for her to handle -and it has become a one sided friendship. I would confide in a professional counselor -your work friend is not a counselor (I think?) but either way in this type of relationship is not qualified to help. Some people like to feel needed and will give advice or they have really good intentions. If you aren't going to listen to what she has to say, then it turns awkward. I would truly shift all of this to a counselor immediately (and seek domestic violence support as well if in that situation again). Start slowly rebuilding the friendship by not laying any of this on her but to ask how she is and to keep things free from this heavy type of privacy.

Hi, my opinion as have had that experience with people in the past not everyone has your best interest at hand and jealousy plays a big role. There are people who are not really in your corner and wish to see you fail, because they are not happy with their life.
If you feel she's really not a true friend drop her, you don';t need her,
Gary

there could be your reason why she doesn't tell you anything about herself. Nothing to tell. She may have no problems or drama in her life to discuss. If she does, she could keep it to herself because of her past. Or she only confides in one person. I think it's nice she is there to help you work out stuff with your bf or tell you to leave him. Your situation may be to hard for her to handle outside of text messaging if she is a true empath. Even texting can be hard on an empath if she can pick up emotions and energy through communication like email and text. She is helping you the best way she can right now and I think in your situation you need more and that is fine as well. I don't think you will get 100% of what you need in a friend right now from her.
Will your friends and family come back to you of you leave that bf?