I would try not to be so sensitive about it. He maybe felt like taking you and two others to the nail appointment was not a priority for him, unlike your orthodontist and counseling appointments.

Take the bus, a cab or uber to the salon.

I think If I was being asked to give rides everywhere all the time, I would be irritated too.
I work hard and on my days off I just want to relax, not drive all over the place.
I know he should help you, but I think asking him to drive to the nail salon a bunch of people is kind pushing it.

I was married to a man that didn't get his license until 10 years into our marriage. It was absolutely annoying to have to drive him around everywhere when I had my own schedule to keep, as well. I felt like his parent, not his wife. My advice would be to get your license ASAP and in the meantime do as the others suggest and take a cab once in awhile. If you had others going with you could they not have provided the transportation?

Expectations can get you every time. A spouse is not a chauffeur and treating them as one says a lot about you, and it's not all good.

Hi,

I am in a very similar situation to you, in that, I don't have my licence and my husband usually gives me lifts . However, there is a key difference. My husband only gives me lifts when he can and it doesn't disturb his routine too much.

90% of the rest of the time, I am on my own- public transport/ cabs or plain old walking.

Not meaning to attack you at all, but your post comes off as you feeling entitled to lifts and rides off your partner. Is that the case? Do you feel, due to him having a licence and you not, that he is obligated to drive you around?

If that is the case, then I am afraid I can see your partner's point. It isn't very fun, having to drive someone to a nails appointment and then picking them up again after an hour.

Please, re read what you have written here- you admit he rarely says no, isn't it perhaps fairer for you to ask less of him and thank him profusely on the occasions that he does help?

I have to agree with what others have said..... Being a taxi service would get annoying..... Why don't you get your licence?.... Perhaps he'd let you borrow the car if you help with some of the expenses or you could get your own.... Having a car is such a great convenience......xo

I see that you're young so I'm going to put on my mom hat with my reply as I have a 21 year old son.

Ok first and foremost this is NOT to attack/put you down in anyway, you need to learn how to depend on one person and that is you! I'm not attacking/putting down your man, but I tell all girls/women not to depend on a man because you never know what's going to happen, again not saying anything bad about him.

As far as getting from point A to B, I had don't have my license either and take public transportation. Is it a pain, yes sometimes but I do what I have to do with what I have at the moment. If you have insurance look into seeing if they have transportation for doc appointments. I'm sure they do since most of them do. I get 30 rides a year (15 there/15 back) and I don't ever use them all.

You definitely need to do things on your own so you're not dependent on him. Plus it feels good to not have to beg someone to get you places. And like others have said when you do that he won't be as cranky.

I've had my license since I was 18 but I didn't own a car for much of my adult life, by choice (I'm 52). For a long time my husband and I were a one car couple. Before I met him, public transportation, taxis and my bike were how I got around. Even when I was with my husband, I relied on public transportation for the most part. So even if you don't get your license, you have options, especially with Lyft and Uber available. I use Lyft quite a bit.

Be reasonable in your expectations of others.

Note: I understand that I sounded very uptight and very bitchy about this. I wasn't exactly upset about the salon part, but mostly for the fact of I didn't want him to feel as though my appointments are errands, and I feel as though he has made it very clear that he doesn't like it.

I try my best to work around his schedule and fit his needs for other things. I try to be accepting when he cannot take me places. I wouldn't have posted about this if he hadn't mentioned the fact that my appointments are burdened.

He just recently bought a car, and before that he was using my mother's vehicle. It made me feel bad that he had put on the table that thought these errands were a burden. I don't always expect much of him, as I always try my hardest to put him first, as I do with others. I'm sorry if I came off rude, disrespectful and brat.

This occasion was for my little sister's birthday, and the day before her and my cousin had worked hard to clean the house under his wishes. Once again, I'm sorry for coming off as a snobby person, and I thank you all for responding to my post. I hope you will understand what I mean in this reply.

That's why I mentioned being over sensitive, because you mentioned him calling them errands. Maybe he just was in a mood. Talk to him about how you felt when he said that.

According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of errand is: a - a short trip taken to attend to some business often for another. b - the object or purpose of such a trip.

So yes, he is running errands for you. That is what he is doing. I think it is you who is assigning triviality to errands. And sometimes errands can be a burden. Especially if he has already committed to two errands that day. How much of his time was already committed to running errands for you? An hour, two, four? How much of HIS time was he offering for your disposal? And a trip to the nail salon for three women would run an hour or more. Probably two hours if my experience at nail salons is anything to go on.

And how often do you express your appreciation to him? Not just a "thanks for the lift".

I didn't ask for the definition, thank you, I know what it means. My little sister is not a 'woman', she is a little girl who was excited for this, she being the most excited for it. Last time I checked, when you're in a relationship, you both do things for one another, and there shouldn't be a tag on it.

How I express my appreciation for him? I cook for him, I clean for him, I listen to him, I do his laundry. Why couldn't my mother or grandmother take me? Considering they both were at the hospital, my mother could not take my little sister, cousin and I. My mother usually tries to take me to my appointments, so I don't have to further 'burden' him.

My boyfriend does not pay bills. He does not currently have a job. He goes to school on Mondays and Wednesdays, and every day other than those two days, he spends the day off. I was asking these 'burdens' of him on days he was not going to school. Every other day, he could be caught lounging in the room in my grandmother's house, playing a video game I probably bought him as a 'thanks' for everything he does.

Do not assume that I ask for everything and give NOTHING in return. Thank you for your comment expressing how you can work Google and search the definition of a word I learned in third grade. :)

If he's home all day, get him to do the laundry and cooking. Getting lifts to appointments should never be an expectation. Now about the not paying bills as well as not doing chores, no wonder you're upset with him, and this could have more to do with this than it does not giving you rides. Get that sorted because it's creating problems and can only escalate.

Wishing you well.

I think Lenoire nailed it. I too would be hurt and angry if my partner begrudged me an errand if he spent 5 days out of 7 lounging around playing video games. I think you have a bigger problem here than a ride to the nail salon.

To the OP, after reading your last post you really, really should learn how to become a more self-sufficient young lady. I'm all about education and that's awesome he's doing so, however he could get a PT job, even it's a paper route. Like Lenoire said if he's not working outside the home he should be doing things other than playing video games all day, like doing his own laundry, etc. I am a grandmother and I be damned if my son's gf was just laying around doing nothing. I'm not trying to be a b***h or put you on blast, but you do really need to look into the situation without rose colored glasses.