All I want is the truth, but no matter how I approach him, he claims he doesn't remember the text and doesn't talk to other girls.

If ya doesn't trust him, why are you bothering with him, at all? Just wondering. . .

You know the truth. You just don't want to accept it.

Your BF/fiance has a history of texting, sexting, tweeting, seeing other woman, then lying about it.

You have two options.

1) Stay in the relationship.

2) Leave.

It is just that simple.

He "doesn't remember"..... That is not even a creative lie.

Have you tried couples counseling with him? I know before there were problems with him sexting other girls, and the one in Vegas, and he invited his ex to your wedding...…

You really need to put your foot down! He will NOT stop any of this should you decide to marry him. He is getting away with cheating left and right, and you know that, but you are letting it happen too..... and you DO have control over this situation. You don't have to hurt like this. You CAN do something about it.

Love, and marriage, isn't supposed to hurt.... it is not about any cheating and lying either.

If you don't want to break it off just yet, please at least try couples counseling with him.

For what it's worth:
I can't remember who or what I texted yesterday. I would be furious if my husband started policing/interrogating me on the subject for the past year.

Why don’t you know what to do? You don’t trust him. That is based just on this post but your other posts.

Agree, you either stay or leave. There is no in between.

If you stay you have to accept that this is who he is and find a way to live with it. Because he is not going to change. It’s evident because he doesn’t even have to ability to acknowledge and own his shit. It makes no sense to keep checking his phone because you know deep down he’s not interested in respecting you or the relationship.

If you leave, you have self respect and peace of mind.

I understand it’s not easy to leave him but at some point you have to recognize doing this same thing over and over and expecting it to be different is not about him but about you drawing a line in the sand.

I agree that you have options to accept what is, leave or change how you respond. Claim responsibility for what you can change and let go of what you cannot control.

A word of caution. Because you were snooping, he may not trust you either.

Hi Brooklynn, is this the same guy you caught still talking to his ex, in the spring of 2018?

If so, I would seriously just cut your losses and break it off now. If you marry him, it will get worse and worse and worse. You will be so stressed out. He's not going to stop. Divorce is very expensive.

Arfie, I hear what you're saying, but would you ever text another man something sexual? I feel like if you did, it's something you'd remember.

Maybe he texts sexual stuff so often, he has truly forgotten. Maybe it is so meaningless to him beyond getting something from this person, that he has no value of this person so he truly doesn't remember. I think if he is a cheater, you are right to have doubts about him. The real issue is why do you accept this poor treatment of you?

Not sure how you snooped but if he sent those texts a year ago, and he still has them on his phone, this tells me he is arrogant and believes he will not be caught. Or he thinks you have no value so who cares if you know. I divorced my ex who was too stupid to delete his text messages off his phone and didn't even bother to password protect his phone while he was cheating. I snooped on his phone after he stopped coming home from nights in the bars. What I realized was, my ex thought so little of me that he didn't bother covering his tracks. He also was so narcissistic and arrogant that he never even thought how I felt mattered. And he still doesn't know to this day that I know he was out all night and professing love back and forth with somebody names Erin. LOL!

What you found is only a tiny part of his secret life he is leading behind your back. Unfortunately, I am probably
an expert on cheating boyfriends.
He has other people he is seeing.
You can’t believe anything he says, because everything is a lie. Evidence is the truth.

Don’t waste any more of your life on him. You will just drive yourself crazy . They don’t change, don’t end up like me , nearly 60 and still don’t believe a word he says or does. He doesn’t care about your feelings . You deserve better. Good luck