LOL. I can't figure out whether you're bragging or really looking for advice. Exotic dancers are players and you can't trust anything they say while they are in that profession. It's all about money.

Not really bragging (although, at age 42, it was rather flattering to have a twenty-something girl physically check me out and smile at me--my ass is still tight LOL). She seemed very friendly for a "professional".

A "player"...yeah, that's pretty much what I figured. I'm a dark, dark soul, and I seem to attract and be attracted to the "night-life" crowd. Guess I gotta look for someone lighter and fluffier to balance me out LOL...thanks for the advice, Voin!

I think that's one big generalization about strippers...
You have no idea why she began stripping in the first place. All stripping is is a job, something to earn money. If you liked her outside of her job, I don't think it should matter what her job is.
Now for you feeling wierd about her stripping. It's understandable, who wants people looking at their significant other. BUT would you feel the same way if she was a model? Or maybe a porno star, where people look in the privacy of their home? Or what about a lifeguard, where they spend their day in a tight bathing suit, being oogled by men? All it is is a JOB. If she's coming to your bed every night, then what's the problem?
If she treats you well, then her job shouldn't come into the picture. You're dating her, not her profession.

my brother in law has dated a stripper, let me tell you it is a recipe for disaster, they mostly look at all men as another customer or a dollar sign, walk away, actually run,that is not going to anything that even resembles a healthy realtionship

I have and it worked out fine until she wanted to be more than just fun...

Then I moved on.

I would never consider having a relationship with a stripper.

Find out for yourself.

I would. Not all stripers are bad people some do it to pay for college. After going out with her a few times see how she is. treat her with respect and she will you.

pardon me, but i thought you didn't have a valentine, koolman? jk

i think you should listen to Rob....#5.....

Driving: I agree with certain things that you're saying--true, she may want to go to college eventually and do other things. The question is: How do I feel with her RIGHT NOW? I guess it boils down to trust. Some exotic dancers do indeed take guys into back rooms and FUCK them (for more money). "If she's coming into your bed every night, what's the problem?" The problem is, you don't know WHO ELSE she's with too. If she is in fact having sex with other guys, you're taking THEM into your bed too, along with their diseases and spiritual degeneration. No thanks. I expect a certain amount of "heart loyalty" from my lady. And, no, I would not date a porn star either, for the same reason. A model or lifeguard is a little cleaner, but she's tempted there too...I guess I trust her until she clearly gives me reason not to, and then I make a decision of whether to stay or whether to go. If her heart is with me, unless she's a fantastic actress with boundless energy, if she and I are having fantastic, passionate sex, she shouldn't have ENERGY for anyone else...

The problem, for me, also is...I WANT to look at her as more than just a sex doll, and I'm trying to find her heart in there somewhere...but, it's difficult; so far, I can't seem to feel where her heart is. I feel a certain amount of LUST connection with her, and that's as far as it goes at this point. Maybe she thinks I'm a rich older dude who can rescue her from her profession and present her with the REAL bucks. If that's the case, she'll be sadly disappointed. I'm making a living, and will treat her to nice things as my meager spare cash allows, but poor guys like me have to make up with lack of gargantuan bank accounts with boundless love and propensity for sex!!! If I were cool with merely using the girl as a sex doll, then I'd be OK with her profession. But I want to feel something deeper...I'll talk with her a bit more and see if I feel something and if she feels something toward me. If there's no heart connection, I'll let go of her (except as a cool, sexy friend with a pretty face and hot bod) and move onto someone else for heart connection.

GSCH: Yes, I try to treat every woman I meet with respect, look into her eyes and her soul and try to find something there that might lead to a bond.

Beautyfor: (laughs) Well, I met this girl casually during a shoot, gave her my phone #, she didn't give me hers, and then met her at a friend's place again...I think this girl would've given me her digits by now if she was interested in spending quality time with me, so I think she's just a friend at this point anyway. Thanks!

I've had boyfriends that wanted me to be a stripper. Actually, I tend to end up with guys who thinks it's awesome when other guys drool over me. Like my current boyfriend, he takes it as a compliment. He looks at it like ... all these guys want her, and she comes home to ME every night. And he's right. That's how I take it when other people look at him. And I've encouraged him to dance at the gay clubs, cuz they all seem to think he's hot shit, which he is. ;)

going on a limb here. you're putting the cart way before the horse. you gave her your number and then you seen her at another friend's place. so, technically, she's not called you, nor you two have even dated.
if she were into you from the get, she'd have called by now.
just pass, and move on.
if she calls sometime in the future, you're not waiting around for her anyway.
and if a stripper had a dollar for every guy they got numbers from, they'd never even need to dance.
also, about the whole sex thing. stripper or not, the world should be promoting safe sex anyway.
imagine, if you two were together, and she says, "its ok, I'm on the pill, and you do your business, then four weeks later you are a daddy.
are you going to or be prepared to do the right thing by the woman you've impregnated?
you've got to me, the makings of simply oogling over a girl, who's hot and you'd like to hang out w/her.
either do that, or move onto another, also, with such an age gap you're going to find, different cultural situations, like music, friends, she's not going to like yours your not going to like hers, you might get jealous and ask her to quit her job, she won't to spite you, it's going to be a vicious thing. move on is my opinion.
and yes, i've dated in this profession, it did not turn out bad, but she wanted more from me and I wasn't prepared to give more than I had at the time (going back 13-14 yrs), and no, I didn't meet her at a strip club. I found out after a few dates and, ironically running into her at her establishment while she was on duty, it was all good fun...

Bring them on strippers Excotic Dancers ones with snakes. Pole dancers lap dancers YAYYYY

First off when did any of you people become Jesus Christ.. A stripper bleeds the same kind of blood that each one of us bleeds and I bet she is a great person on the inside..

She could certainly be a good person on the inside. However, she has made the choice to play men for money since she decided to be a stripper. It's pretty hard to refute that. When she's done with that game, then she can probably be herself. I don't think Jesus Christ would condemn a stripper as you implied.

She seems like a nice girl with a good and gentle soul, not physically shy but not overly chatty either. I'll probably see her again this weekend on a shoot, and I'll just be kind and real with her and see if she opens up to me a little more.

I have been dancing sence i turned 18 and met my husband at 19 and we have stayed together ever sence. As long as the girl cares about you and thinks of dancing as just a job.Then you should be ok. My problem dancing is the drinking.But im working on that.lol Just wanted to give you a dancer point of veiw. Hope you have a awesome week!