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whatswrong19
whatswrong19

Ok, so in my effort to improve my life and my experience I am trying to look at things that happen with a better view.  Like before when people would laugh and giggle alot, and I didn't know why, I always assumed it was about me, and really, why would anyone think that much about me??? it's stupid, I know,  so that's the only thing I'm struggling with today.  the thing I was struggling with yesterday was thinking my program manger was out to get me and wants to fire somebody,  it's really ridiculous, though truly she does seem to always be on the lookout for anyone doing anything wrong so she can write them up.  But maybe it's more about wanting the best performance than just wanting to hurt somebody.  so any encouragment or advise on this activity will be appreciated.  

Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Optimism is essential for happiness. You have a good perspective. You show possibilities. Do you have a therapist to help you continue and follow this path?
tonisora
tonisora
My thought about the other people laughing and stuff is like, okay I am thinking about them so maybe the are thinking about me but IT DOESN'T MATTER. Why should it matter? My thoughts about them aren't effecting them, why should I let their thoughts about me, real or imagined, effect me?
Letting go of caring what other peoples opinions are takes time and dedication. It doesn't happen over night, but with consistent realignment of thoughts, we can change the way we perceive ourselves and the world.
AdelynRene
AdelynRene
When I struggle with finding optimism about myself, I seek out good things I see in others. Be it that their shirt is a wicked cool colour, or that they are very hard working individuals. And I try to do it in a way, that I don't expect it to be returned, but I can be proud of myself for being able to point out the good in others.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Most people are actually thinking about themselves. Most people are self absorbed. People have their own issues, their own problems. If you can think about it that way, you won't feel as if people are talking or laughing about you.. Because most likely they are not!

And if you feel your manager is out to fire someone, not a lot you can do if they are like that. All you can do is do the best job that you can do.

We can't control what other people think or do. We can only control how we react to it.

Good for you, you are doing great! :)
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