Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
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Ziggy Baitz (my dear friend from Oz, wrote this SIX years ago). I felt this SHOULD b shared.
Ziggy = Female
"Why do you suffer depression?" "I don't know, I just do."
Despite the efforts of health advocates and government initiatives to encourage awareness and understanding of mental illness, depression is still the single, most discriminated against health issue in the world today. It is a life- threatening illness, but unfortunately, not taken seriously enough.
Throughout history, people with mental illness have been hidden away in institutions, 'put away, out of sight and out of mind.' Pun intended. Even the name of these institutions has changed several times over the years to allay the fears of both sufferer and probably, to a higher degree, the general public. People branded as insane were put into the infamous mental institution, 'Bedlam,' some 100 years ago. These places have been referred to as 'loony bins,' 'lunatic asylums,' 'nut and mad houses,' mental hospitals or institutions, and with some modernisation, psychiatric hospitals and/or institutions. In the 1970s, they became known as 'acute medical' hospitals. That way, there was no indication of the type of medicine practised for the patients hidden inside.
Whatever names have been given to these places for the mentally ill, and no matter how treatments have changed, the name-calling never has. Nut-case, fruit cake, loony, loon or just plain lunatic, crazy, mad, loopy, crackers. The list goes on. Even television and radio commercials can and do advertise their upcoming sales as being 'sheer madness', using euphemisms like 'Crazy J's', or, K*n Blah 'has gone mad,' as we see him wrapped in a straight jacket, a parrot on his shoulder and patch over his crossed eye. This kind of representation continues on without a whimper of compassion for the mentally ill. Worse, they are ridiculed.
The depressive will most often be asked, 'what caused you to feel this way?' Losing a loved one, going through divorce or enduring chronic illness are just some situations that are very likely to cause depression. These depressions are natural, understood and therefore empathised with . . . as long as it goes away after a short while.
I am not referring to this kind of reactive depression, but to those who suffer endogenous depression, the kind that descends for no apparent reason, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, anxiety, panic attics and other forms of mental illness that don't go away after what's considered to be a healthy amount of time. For many, it does not go away at all.
'Snap out of it,' the sufferer is told.
'Get a hobby,' is a very popular suggestion.
'Have a nice cup of tea, that will make you feel better.'
'Take a walk.'
'You need to get busy.'
'Get over it.'
'There are plenty of people worse off than you, so pull yourself out of it.'
Again, another endless list of suggestions to get you off your bum and into the real world. All the above ought to take your mind off your problems, right? Not right. If one is depressed, one cannot do these things and is lucky to be able to simply get out of bed, often for days, let alone put the kettle on to make a cup of tea.
I feel qualified to say these things having suffered severe and chronic depression for some 40 years. It's a lonely, frightening, isolating and alienating world.
Something rather wonderful happened to me four years ago. I was diagnosed with breast cancer. A life threatening illness people understand! The support was overwhelming and miraculous. When I would have a depressive episode, those around me put it down to my having cancer. I kept this little joke to myself as selfishly, I drank in the sympathy and support I had never received when depressed. I was so happy to be given the loving attention and get-well wishes.
Nobody suggested I 'snap out of it,' or 'find a hobby.' Nobody would even consider me 'taking a walk.' I was not well enough, and certainly the expectation, indeed, requirement to get in the least bit busy, or think about other people who are worse off than myself in order to 'get over it [the cancer],' was suggested. There were plenty of offers to 'have a nice cup of tea' to make me feel better, but I wasn't expected to make it myself. It was the offer of someone making me that cup of tea that had me feeling very much better, not the tea itself.
"Why did I get breast cancer"? "I don't know, I just did."
Why do I get depressed? "I don't know, I just do."
- January 2006
Ziggy = Female
"Why do you suffer depression?" "I don't know, I just do."
Despite the efforts of health advocates and government initiatives to encourage awareness and understanding of mental illness, depression is still the single, most discriminated against health issue in the world today. It is a life- threatening illness, but unfortunately, not taken seriously enough.
Throughout history, people with mental illness have been hidden away in institutions, 'put away, out of sight and out of mind.' Pun intended. Even the name of these institutions has changed several times over the years to allay the fears of both sufferer and probably, to a higher degree, the general public. People branded as insane were put into the infamous mental institution, 'Bedlam,' some 100 years ago. These places have been referred to as 'loony bins,' 'lunatic asylums,' 'nut and mad houses,' mental hospitals or institutions, and with some modernisation, psychiatric hospitals and/or institutions. In the 1970s, they became known as 'acute medical' hospitals. That way, there was no indication of the type of medicine practised for the patients hidden inside.
Whatever names have been given to these places for the mentally ill, and no matter how treatments have changed, the name-calling never has. Nut-case, fruit cake, loony, loon or just plain lunatic, crazy, mad, loopy, crackers. The list goes on. Even television and radio commercials can and do advertise their upcoming sales as being 'sheer madness', using euphemisms like 'Crazy J's', or, K*n Blah 'has gone mad,' as we see him wrapped in a straight jacket, a parrot on his shoulder and patch over his crossed eye. This kind of representation continues on without a whimper of compassion for the mentally ill. Worse, they are ridiculed.
The depressive will most often be asked, 'what caused you to feel this way?' Losing a loved one, going through divorce or enduring chronic illness are just some situations that are very likely to cause depression. These depressions are natural, understood and therefore empathised with . . . as long as it goes away after a short while.
I am not referring to this kind of reactive depression, but to those who suffer endogenous depression, the kind that descends for no apparent reason, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, anxiety, panic attics and other forms of mental illness that don't go away after what's considered to be a healthy amount of time. For many, it does not go away at all.
'Snap out of it,' the sufferer is told.
'Get a hobby,' is a very popular suggestion.
'Have a nice cup of tea, that will make you feel better.'
'Take a walk.'
'You need to get busy.'
'Get over it.'
'There are plenty of people worse off than you, so pull yourself out of it.'
Again, another endless list of suggestions to get you off your bum and into the real world. All the above ought to take your mind off your problems, right? Not right. If one is depressed, one cannot do these things and is lucky to be able to simply get out of bed, often for days, let alone put the kettle on to make a cup of tea.
I feel qualified to say these things having suffered severe and chronic depression for some 40 years. It's a lonely, frightening, isolating and alienating world.
Something rather wonderful happened to me four years ago. I was diagnosed with breast cancer. A life threatening illness people understand! The support was overwhelming and miraculous. When I would have a depressive episode, those around me put it down to my having cancer. I kept this little joke to myself as selfishly, I drank in the sympathy and support I had never received when depressed. I was so happy to be given the loving attention and get-well wishes.
Nobody suggested I 'snap out of it,' or 'find a hobby.' Nobody would even consider me 'taking a walk.' I was not well enough, and certainly the expectation, indeed, requirement to get in the least bit busy, or think about other people who are worse off than myself in order to 'get over it [the cancer],' was suggested. There were plenty of offers to 'have a nice cup of tea' to make me feel better, but I wasn't expected to make it myself. It was the offer of someone making me that cup of tea that had me feeling very much better, not the tea itself.
"Why did I get breast cancer"? "I don't know, I just did."
Why do I get depressed? "I don't know, I just do."
- January 2006
No pamphlet, no doctor, no short summary of depression can quite do that.
It's when you actually talk to other human beings, and hear what they have to share, that the light bulbs come on and everything doesn't seem quite as desolate.
We're ALL still learning the parameters of this thing. I don't think anyone can claim to be the be-all and end-all of knowledge regarding depression. The definition of it, and the effect it has, seem to be always changing and expanding.
Sharing helps enlighten everyone.
I think most mentally healthy people just don't get it that you don't have to have a circumstantial reason to be depressed or have any mental problems at all for that matter. This is the reason why I often feel alone because I don't think anyone who do care and love me can really understand why I'm feeling the way I do, given the wonderful life that I have.
I have a chronic illness its been 10yrs since my world crashed. I have lupus, no cure, I have fibromyalgia no cure, and these illnesses you can't see. i looked healthy i didnt look sick. I have had my mom amd family thinking I was faking. they do not and still don't understand the disease and dont want to. My mom has told me to feel bad another day. Oh I wish I could. I have fought depression for 9yrs and it is not getting any better but I try to push on. I have days I cannot get out of bed due to pain can't eat because the pain is to bad and so i lay in bed till someone comes home to help me. I have no one but my kids and husband and they have school and work. My sisters dont offer to help, my mom has never offered to help, My mother inlaw has never offered to help. theres days I could care less if the house burns down around me I feel to bad to care. I can't take care of myself on them days. I have no life, no enjoyment, no social life at all. I see who comes to my house and which they live here and then I am in bed all the time. i hate it. I have been fighting these illnesses for so long Im tired. holding on to a little bit of hope to get well so I can see my daughter sing at a chior concert. I have no help in my house other than my family but after the day they dont want to come home and clean and cook. they use to but my older daughter has moved out and got married. my son is never here but tries to help occsionally. My hubby works two jobs so we can pay bills. My thirteen does alot but I feel bad for her to have to do it all. I feel guilty, I use to do it all. I feel worthless. So the chronic illness is not good either not unless you have a strong support system but it hurts no matter how we got here it hurts that people don't understand even if you can't see it when you open the door or don't understand it . Its real and it effects everyone different. When you have multiple stressors stacked up and you can't see the light and you feel like your running out of rope, its hard to hold on and pull yourself up and push through another day when you know that tomorrow your gonna have to push again and again and still the same outcome. Hugs
Hugs fd and wynow!!
Hugs, everyone.
I push through it with physical exercise. I refuse to let myself become physically infirm. Then I'll REALLY be depressed lol. Healthy body, healthy mind...it's amazing...when the body is fit, the mind is lifted out of depression, because I for one feel like I can do anything, handle whatever life has to dish out!
I suffer because I have depression... no that is not right....
I have depression because I suffer.... no not right either....
BUT, both are right.... shit it's like which came first the chik'n or the egg...?
there ain't no easy explination for any thing I have done in my life or why I did it... I just did it, all on auto-pilot and then the auto-pilot just seems 2 have broke, or reset it's self... and, damm I thought I was actually alive and making decions when all that was happening was i was self medicating....
well got 2 get the library'n wants 2 go home...