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I have been single for a decent while now which has affected my depression a lot. Since a bunch of drama happened to me earlier this year, I have not been much for dating. I kind of randomly meet a guy who seems to be great. He is really sweet and attentive to me. I am 26 and he is 33 which is not a huge deal at all. The problem that I am having with this is that I like him a lot but the few friends I have think this is a bad idea. They think this because he has been separated from his wife since February. He just filed for divorce last month. He told me that he hates her and that the marriage is definitely over. The thing is at the end of the day, he is still married. My friends think that I am being played for a fool because he is using me as a rebound. He seems to really care and texts me all day since we have started going out. I have tried to talk to him about us possibly being something exclusive and all he tells me is that if it happens, it happens. He says that he lives in the moment and it will happen if it is meant to. I do not know what to make of all this. I really need help because I hate being alone but am I making it worse by falling for him?
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
Do they have children?
But.... that being said, here is my opinion :P
If you enjoy his company, and it makes you happy to be with him, then do it. But keep your wits, don't expect him to stick around for forever, and understand you may end up heartbroken if your expectations are high.
Most broken hearts heal, nothing wrong with living in the moment. Especially if it makes you happy.
No one here knows the dude. Do what you want.
Although I'd give that one a miss if I were you.
"I have tried to talk to him about us possibly being something exclusive and all he tells me is that if it happens, it happens."
That is nothing if not avoidance of commitment, and fairly straightforward at that. I know this is a cliche, but I believe it holds that status for a reason: Actions speak louder than words. He can be sweet, text you, and say the kindest things he wants, but if he is unwilling to follow through with the logical conclusion to exchanging such words (i.e.: exclusivity), then that may be all you need to know.
Also, he says he hates her? He is obviously still emotionally engaged with the woman, one way or another (probably not love, but still intense emotions nonetheless). Another red flag. I would steer clear myself.
Getting defensive = feeling guilty. He doesn't want to give what you want him to give you, plain and simple. He just wants to "have fun".
To preserve respect for you, I'd tell him to call you when he feels like making a commitment to you. You shouldn't settle for anything less than your heart really wants. In the end, you will have wasted so much time jumping through hoops to pretend that you are happy with HIS decision.
The moment you put your desires and needs aside to keep a man, is the moment you lose entire respect from that man. So hold your ground, and a real man will respect you more than if you didn't. If he doesn't, he's a SLEEZER! :)
I think this would be a good question to ask him....Why are him and his wife divorcing? If you don't know already, I think it would be pretty important for you to know. Don't ya think?
HUGS
He wants my divorced butt