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Falcon05
Falcon05

I've never done this before but it's something I haven't tried yet. I suffer from depression, anxiety, and very low self esteem. Sometimes I even think that I'm ugly or unloveable. I grew up not having too many close friends and I do now however I have never been in a relationship and it's starting to take a toll on me. I am unable to be okay with being alone. I just feel like shit all the time and I'm just trying to cope. 

Wolfy
Wolfy
Hi welcome and hugs.
maria718
maria718
Listen, you're YOUNG, you got your whole life in front of you!! For starters, get busy so you don't dwell on things too much. Work, go places, enjoy nature, put yourself out there, volunteer, etc. I used to volunteer a lot many years ago and I met a ton of people. I'm a Loner all my life, but I found that by keeping busy and putting myself out there really helped. I hope this helps you, good luck!
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
That's great that you have friends now. Go out with them. Say Hi to a girl if you see one you like. Start going out to more and more places with your friends. It's fun to get out of the house and talking with some new people.

Go to the gym. Working out, exercising, will really boost your self esteem. Get your body moving! It helps a lot with depression, anxiety, etc.

Girls aren't going to come knocking at your door. Have to go out and start saying Hi and I am sure soon you will meet some girls and start dating.

Get outside! :)
SirGrits
SirGrits
Yeah, welcome aboard Falcon.
Those thoughts about being unlovable and ugly sound like negative thinking patterns that are very breakable. Lately I've been working on improving my game in identifying these negative thought patterns in myself and others (I do this internally just to help get better at seeing the patterns). You can google what they are or check out reference material for CBT and definitely bring this topic up with your therapist if you have one. Learning to challenge the thought patterns that lead to those wrong ideas in the moment can help free you from the bondage that such thinking brings.
As to your new friends, try to remember that you don't need to force it and that these people are people too, dealing with the same crap you are--perhaps not in the same measure and in the same ways, but the same crap none the less...Way to go, humans can be touchy animals.
Prayers friend.
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