Your not alone. I feel like dying every minute of every day right now. My wife is leaving me and taking our kids and I’m not stopping her. Your life is precious. Go and try something new. Go and visit someplace close you’ve never been to and try your hardest to just talk to random people regardless of how awkward or shy you feel. I’ve only just forced myself to do that at work. And the person I did it to I hated fully. Now she’s like a sister to me. I can lean on her all day long and she’s so happy to do it and I feel a little bit better about my life. You. Are. Not. Alone.

Thank you Joe. that's really kind and made me feel better. i'm glad you found a friend.

I wish I could tell you how many times I've felt the same way Wendy and how many times I've sat crying. I have seen just how cruel the world can be too. I used to think that people actually cared for each other and would stand by each other but I've learned real life is so much different..

Sometimes I've wondered where I'll be soon myself because like you I have no children and I have difficulty making friends because of how I've been treated. I hope you keep holding on though because you do sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you have a good heart.

Sometimes I don't understand why things happen the way they do. But I hope you will find happiness and what you're looking for because it sounds like you deserve to be happy and content.

Hi Wendy. I'm so sorry that you're feeling the way you are, yet I'm so glad you're here! You don't know how much you can help others in the same situation just by sharing your thoughts and feelings. Joe is right - you are not alone - many here will connect with exactly what you're saying and will support you. I also know it's hard not to make comparisons with others and what the 'norm' is, but when we do that we lose sight of ourselves and the incredible person we are. You are incredible! You are enough! So, drop the baggage of comparison and the guilt and shame that come with it and give yourself a break. Show some compassion to yourself. Love yourself. But you can only do that by accepting who you are, not who you could have been, not what you could have had. You are enough! Check out Brene Brown on Youtube - she tells it so much better than me. Time to start speaking some truth over yourself! Virtual hugs being sent your way.

your words have comforted me so much! I don't feel as alone now. thank you for writing. good advice, too. hugs to you

Try a dating service. You have a better chanch of meeting someone. They have coaches that can help you. Or find a dating coach.

>that i never will
never say never!

Hi Wendy, I am 48 and in the same boat...no kids or significant other to give meaning to, love and give purpose to life. I want to say something that might seem jerkish but is something I wish I had realized years ago...I've been alone for about 10+ years and for a long time I just felt sad and a bit defeated but didn't do anything about it cause I was shy or tired from work, unmotivated etc. I always put off getting my life together and making connections. Now, I am very sick (for the last year I have been incapacitated pretty much and am on disability) and it does not look like I will get better and now I am kicking myself for not living life while I could've. I wasted so much time. I would give anything now to be well and go back to work and have the chance to just go out and do normal things, even alone. I would give anything to be healthy again even if it meant I was alone the whole rest of my life. So what I am trying to say (and it might not be helpful but I hope it will spur you on to live and enjoy your life) is you never know what is coming good or bad. Take advantage of every minute, stop the comparison game (I recently stopped facebook cause I coulnd't take everyone's happy postings anymore). If you have decent health, you can work on everything else as long as you don't give up.

Hi Wendy, I can relate to ur post a lot. I'm around if you ever want to chat.

Hello, Thanks for your post. I'm sorry that you feel this way and you don't deserve to feel this way. I know that you need a good man in your life. It's understandable that it gets difficult. I was once in your place; I would pray and ask God for guidance and strength. I would rather have the right person in my life and this took time. I see you are blessed and very strong woman who had waited. I sometimes see single people with children who are unhappy and this is difficult. I hope you know you have done well for yourself. The best way to get to know a man is to talk to him and if he's right for you even go out on a date.
I wish you the best.