Everyone deals with death in different ways. Some people cry, some people laugh, and some people just don't think about it. I don't think you're odd because you've accepted that they are no longer on this Earth.

The fact that you brought them up tells me that you think about them, which means you haven't forgotten them. I'm guessing they would have wanted you not to mourn their passing and to move on with your life. Wouldn't you want your family to do the same for you?

Both my parents passed many years ago. I think about them on their birthdays. I think about them when something reminds me of them. I do not even remember the dates of their deaths. Friends that have passed I think about occasionally. I don't cry about any of them any more. I cried when they died and eventually accepted their deaths. As sweetsygal said everyone deals with death differently. I would not let it get to ya. I do not think that it makes you weird in any way.

I miss my dad a lot during the holidays. His last holiday was spent in the hospital. Doesn't invoke good memories.

My dad's parents I barely knew so I don't give their deaths much thought. Even my mom's parents I barely think about.

My best cousin I remember all the time. We were very close and losing him almost killed me.

It depends on the relationship you had with the person I think

I agree with AngleEyes, it depends on the relationship you had with them. It also depends on YOU! Some people mourn deeply over every family death, some just move on. The problem comes when somebody tries to convince you that you are not mourning enough.

Even if that person is you!

Gentle hugs!

I don't think it matters really. I would say don't let what others think about how you grieve bother you. My Dad died on Thanksgiving this year but he was a mess and he needed to go. People expect me to be all messed up about it but I just can't. We did not get along very well even before he got sick, so I have decided not to let what other's think affect me.

Both my grandfathers died when I was under 30. I cared more for one than I did for the other. But I don't remember the day they died, and have no idea when their birthdays are.

Occasionally I will dream about them and wonder why, but it does not cause me grief.

Sometimes you got to tell your mind to stop grabbing onto drama, and thinking that the difference in how you handle death is something to be concerned about is a drama grasping way that you need to let go of, so you can be free to have some peace.

It does depend on the relationship you had with that person. I never knew my dad and when he passed I felt bad but i didnt know him so it didnt hurt as much as it did for his children that knew him.

I admit my relationship with my dad was ho hum, but I was very fond of my Gma and Gpa and quite close to them. I just didn't have any trouble letting go like most people do.

I have lost 4 dear people in 22 months. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. It is a very personal thing.

OMG...I get this..I LOVED my Grandmother more than I loved anyone and couldn't understand why I didn't cry...its been over 10 years..I just went and decorated her grave and finally cried my eyes out....I thought I was a weirdo..for not FEELING...at appropriate times...I didn't know her birthday either...I looked at it and still don't know...but I do know I loved her...and I do know that I grieve..just not like normal grieving...and you seem the same..your not alone.

It takes as long as it takes to grieve. I also believe it depends on the relationship. I still cry if I stay in my head to long about the death of my family members. And, I often think of them, especially, at holidays. I am not "sad" about it anymore. The memories are here for a reason. I enjoy my walk down memory lane on occasion.

Yeah, I do miss people I cared about when they die, but everyone handles death differently. It's only natural to disassociate.

Be grateful you're surrounded by so many caring Facebook friends and even though you may feel nothing, at least appreciate the fact that they feel something.

I also think it depends on how much time you spent with them before they died. eg..if you had not seen your parent for a year or two you will not feel so sad as you would if you had spent every day with them. this is perfectly normal. I know i feel very guilty because when my dog died ( he drowned and we were always together) i felt more bereft than when my Father died who i had not seen for a while and who suffered from dementia.

You are NOT wired at all...or is it weird? Sometimes I forget.

when it is the end, then it is the end, nothing can stop it as it is just the end. Sad is the culmination of a bunch of ends, or ends that need not be. I am inferencing a war or suicides here, and deaths due to murder....yeah can't leave that one out. And, then there are accidental deaths... I guess there is a whole set I am implying but as for natural......

It just happens, does not make you abby-normal at all because you most likely have thought about your demise already... I know I have. Though I try not to project what and how I think/believe on others I myself do not find what you have proposed as a question of death dates in any way....

Fact is when it is time to ring the bell the bell you toll is for yourself.

I cried hard when my Grandmother died and cried hard when my step Grandfather died. As did I cry hard when my ex husband ended his life. I think about them a lot throughout the year but I don't get sad about it, I just remember them, that's all.My mother is living with me now and has Hospice here due to her COPD. We never got along and we definitely don't get a long now. She just talks about wishing someone would giver her a pill to put her to sleep forever. But when she gets scared, her whole attitude changes and she gets frightened. When she dies, I think I will be more relieved than sad. If that sounds callous I'm sorry but you would have to know the whole story to understand. Hugs GB