Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Depression & Anger

Korbie
Korbie

I am new to this group so I hope its ok to ask this: 


Does anyone else out there get angry as well as sad when dealing with depression?


My depression will sometimes express itself as anger or I get really irratated.   I get defensive and lash out at others.  It has cost me some long time "friends" recently. I say "friends", as they know I have been struggling.  As long time friends(10 plus years)I would hope they understand, but they don't.


I will say they did something pretty crappy, so my reaction wasn't totally wrong-I was very hurt.  It was just pretty intense, and I got very nasty and defensive. I have since reached out to apoligize but I think this friendship is over.  


 I am on medication, have been for about three months. I am feeling 100 percent better, still struggle at times, but better every day. Anger issues really are tied to depression. Does anyone else have this issue?

peterthegreat
peterthegreat
Yes, I feel angry often. I have major depression.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Sure. One feeds the other. Takes a huge effort to break the cycle.

and welcome to the group. Glad to have you with us.
Korbie
Korbie
Thank you It helps to know others feel the same and I'm not alone!
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
Yes, absolutely. I have often felt like I was the only one with depression coupled with aggression and anger. for me it's this cycle, especially if I go off my meds to long. the cycle for me is, I get really over the top irritated over the slightest things, then something stressful but normal sends me over the edge and I get really pissed at the world, and then depression.
Korbie
Korbie
OMG me too! Its like an invisible wall goes up, I will hurt you before you hurt me kind of thing. And yes, I will find myself snapping at some thing that normally I shrug ff.
thunderman
thunderman
yes, exactly..I cuss myself out a lot, because of it..thing's that should be so simple, come very hard for me...especially with friends, that are really happy and successful...I hate myself because I can't compete with them..I have had depression all my life, then at 23,had a mini breakdown, since then things have gone down hill, and I am 62 now, things still aren't any easier for me..I look at myself, and think I am such a failure, but that is the damn depression..I know,I'm different, and have limits because of the depression..I get angry a lot, and then I feel bad...seems like a never ending cycle.
Korbie
Korbie
Hi Thunderman,
Its very hard and a vicious cycle. Its not that we get angry-everyone does. its the extend of the anger and the depth. For me its way over the top. Prozac does me help me control it. But I can be SO MEAN....I don't want to be but I am
caring2018
caring2018
Welcome to DS. I am so glad you reached out here. Yes, you are not alone, We understand the struggles with depression and how it affects our ability to control emotions. I am glad you are on medication that is working. Are you also in counseling? Medication alone doesn't heal us from depression, we also have to deal with the underlying reason for our depression, learn about our triggers, and coping techniques. Through therapy I have learned the underlying reason I struggle with depression. I have learned to give myself breaks, not be so hard on myself, I am important and special and need to care for myself not just others. I also, learned to journal when I am struggling, pray over my concerns, and not let things concern me as much as they used to. I know now most things are not life or death situations and if I take one concern at a time in small steps, everything can be manageable. I still have moments of anger and sadness, but I look at my situation, take breaths through them, and take one moment at a time. I will be praying for you. Please continue to reach out here. It is a great place to share, get some relief, and support. Hugs and Blessings.
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