No I stand by that sentence. My mother has alzheimer's disease. Just because you have an illness or have suffered abuse doesn't mean you automatically see yourself as a victim, or are ashamed, or have to let others treat you like a victim . I have a chronic disease, one that when not in remission is both painful and humiliating and I'll be damned if I for a second let myself think I'm a victim of anything or anyone. Some may feel that way about themselves but no, not everyone.

It does perpetuate victimhood when you presume people with illness or who have suffered
abuse couldn't possibly understand or even contemplate how putting your information on line has some level of risk that it could be seen by other people.

I think your concerns are really more about you feeling vulnerable knowing someone could read what you've posted on ds. I do get that. But you are making an awful lot assumptions about other members being ashamed or embarrassed simply because of the problems they face. Give your fellow members more credit.

In the old days, ds was part social media site too, technically. And the ability to share and what was public, that's not changed either. It's just that social media has expanded since the old days, and ds is expanding with it.

I'm not trying to argue. I just really feel strongly about stereotypes and stigma associated with certain conditions or issues and how it's assumed people who have these conditions or issues must feel shame, that they can't think for themselves. That's how it comes across to me. I know it's probably not intended that way.

the whole message plus the replies gets posted? no matter who hits the button, everyone else gets dragged in also??

Yup, that is my understanding, everything can be posted. And you won't know.

I still maintain because of the extremely sensitive nature of some of the boards there will be sufficient number of members such that it's not really appropriate to have such a feature.

I don't know why this is being denied, I've seen people say this and leave.

Others will hold different views but I think there are, as said, sufficient people that don't want this for it to be a valid complaint.

I'm not denying it. I'm saying not everyone may feel that way. I agree if the majority of members on ds don't want it, ds should consider removing it. But to be fair neither I, nor anyone here, speaks for all members of ds. My point really all along is, folks have a responsibility to educate themselves about posting on the internet. And if you know someome who can't, educate them. I'm not sure why this is being denied either.

We'll agree to disagree then and my apologies to the original poster for the hijacking of your thread.

good point rmb.

" I agree if the majority of members on ds don't want it, ds should consider removing it. "

Agreed. I did several surveys and people were universally against it.

"And if you know someome who can't, educate them. I'm not sure why this is being denied either. "

I'm not sure that was being denied. I'd very much agree if this was e-bay or something like that. But it's a site with a lot of vulnerable people and some are so busy trying to ask for help or telling their story to consider that DS is sort of encouraging reposting off site. This is often a problem when people first arrive.

And many of the CLs, especially on several boards have over the years made people as aware as we can.

The original poster asked whether it was true that stuff could be posted offsite so clearly there are member concerns. We can go all round the houses of why people should know better, why this should be expected etc etc, it remains a member was concerned.

Clearly other people are concerned and other than saying that is something that perhaps DS should take note off I don't think there is much point in seemingly trying to prove those with concerns they are not valid.

Some members have concerns. Full stop. That's it.

Oh check you out,,,, acuriousfish,.....I was just on a site just checking it out it happened to be the bipolar site and you have the guy a really smart and insightful reply and I told him so , but this whole support groups thing fascinates me so I'm surfing brah you give good advice and seem like one cool cat,.... I'm already a fan brah.....lol.... Rock on James Dean......

I have yet to find this button I can push. Maybe I'm excluded from button pushing. It doesn't matter; because why on earth would anyone want to post this stuff to facebook anyway?

Edit: found the button.

Anyone but me ever check out DS's Facebook page? They basically have no comments on them anywhere (except from DS employees).

This whole thing is somewhat pointless. 1) I've never known of anyone, ever putting something out on FB (interestingly enough, not even in the bad old days from the Breakups and Divorce forum where former spouses were stalking their ex's on here...)

And 2) since DS has basically never gotten positive publicity from the links...why they still want them is a mystery.

Well DS owns the site...so they win. Although just what that is...I don't know.

Just my unsolicited opinion...Patti

I have read this whole original post and the follow-up comments. I think the whole issue boils down to RESPECT. Respect among members.

This is a support site. We should be there for each other. The 'original" DS had these "share options". and, there were times when I found a post that was very encouraging....very well said. But, I often communicated with the friend before posting, copy/pasting.

TeamDS has made it very clear to each person who join that ANYTHING OR EVERYTHING can be shared on other sites.

RESPECT!!!! again, I say RESPECT....this becomes an important thing with this, or any, internet vehicle.

Show respect, people.

I understand some people have issues with trust, respect....that is THEIR issue. We are here to, hopefully, overcome those issues.

This comment is directed at no 1 person. But, everybody needs to learn to respect each other.

Just my humble opinion!!!

Did I do that? .... If I did I didn't know I did it. I'm not computer literate at all and I know nothing about Facebook or Twitter or any of that stuff and I promise I would not try and put anybody else's stuff out anywhere.,,,,, that's not me, that must be something to do with a the site, not something I intentionally did! I'm sorry if I pushed a wrong button something and sent your stuff out into the public domain somehow. If I did please tell what I pushed that did it and I will make sure not to do that to anybody else,... Peace,....thanks for letting me know

Apache,I don't think you did anything. This feature on DS has created concern for some members is all. Most members don't even know the feature exists or use it.

I just caught up on reading the responses here and an interesting thing was discussed:Honesty. One person mentionned using her real name just to be honest istead of explaining why she used a certain other name. In keeping with the theme of honesty I thought, and then realised that if a site such as this one asked us for a pseudo name and we used our legal,real name as a pseudo name then we would not be being honest. A pseudo name is meant to be used in place of one's real name to protect one from adverse concequences should one use their real name. So, if my real name is such or such and I put in such or such as a pseudo name then I'm not being honest because my real name is not a pseudo name. Therefore I enterred nonexisting name to be used as a pseudoname. So the way I see it, if it is about honesty then don't use your own name when asked for a pseudo name. That is not honest. Also in closing, if one uses one's real name instead of a pseudo name on this site then one may get a message asking to change it. DS does not allow for the use of one's real name to be used as a oseudo name, as written somewhere in their toc or terms of privacy. So you are being honest when you use a pseudo name, as long as it is not an offensive one or one that could incite illegal actions, etcetra, also in the toc is a description of what constitutes acceptable and UNacceptable pseudo names.

In response to posts that are to be posted on DS on the old site there was always the message at the bottom of the message field saying:"be nice" It is a nifty way to think before posting. "be nice". Where DS is concerned I believe in that. Also I believe in being discreet. I have read quite a few posts and answerred them via private message, because I wanted to have the other person know my input. But I did not want to embarras certain post authors by making certain elements public that they would prefer not to have made public on DS. But at the very least "be nice" when posting.