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When I received a couple of warnings a few years ago - when I was brand new - there was no reason given for those warnings and I truly did not know what I had done.
My problem with that is that I felt like I had been hurled back into my dysfunctional family - like "we're going to punish you but we're not going to tell you why".
I don't get it and I don't think it is particularly healthy to handle warnings/bannings in that manner.
My problem with that is that I felt like I had been hurled back into my dysfunctional family - like "we're going to punish you but we're not going to tell you why".
I don't get it and I don't think it is particularly healthy to handle warnings/bannings in that manner.
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added cut up hot dogs also some shredded parmeseano reggiano cheese that I used a box shredder to cut it up.
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I just applied for a job that is closer to home and more aligned with my college degree and work experience. It's part-time, but the pay is way better, and I hope to get it.
My birthday is in 7 days.
Some of my friends will not be around to wish me a happy birthday and this depresses me considering I am the birthday lover!
I post birthday posts for my friends and NOW!!! THEY CANT EVEN TELL ME HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
THANKS DS!
I was soo upset at one time not hearing from a friend who was very troubled and threatening harm to herself, and there were days when I did not hear a thing.....and I had heard from her VERY often. Yet; no journals, hugs, pm's....nothing!! I was beside myself with worry. Even sent a pm to a (CL) friend asking what to do.
What 911 should I call????
Well, come to find out.....it was only a 2 week ban, but that 2 week infraction for her, was like a life-time to me. But not to her...as she had already come back under a different ID.
Totally clueless as I was.....she told me about it later, under a different name. lol. Actually, not that funny.
Let's not be so negative. Let's look at the positive and beneficial aspects to this:
DailyStrength's a learning experience; With its rules, regulations and transparency, is It how "Apartheid" in "Suid Afrika" used to.
Isn't that just wonderful?
Hugs
Marion
The reference to "kindergarden" was apt; Adults should be treated maturely.
Hugs
Marion
Does DS not understand that bipolar disorder means that sometimes we will get angry and say stupid things? Do they not understand that banning someone, who may get their only support and friendship here may drive them to suicide? Does DS exist for themselves or to support us?
Perhaps we should all go to another place. I know there are some other good forums, that would not be so heavy handed in enforcing their rules of "being nice." Bipolar 4 LIfe is one, and Delphi Forums had a good one at one time. Another good one was about.com, but they started sticking bugs on my computer every time I went there, so I stopped.
Perhaps we need to vote with our feet. If we all walked away, maybe DS would realize we are serious. There are some simple safeguards in place to stop problems, like ignore - both for PM and hugs, as well, as just ignoring discussion threads we don't like.
I think if we get irritated, is that not a symptom of being bipolar? How many other forums can you get banned from at DS for showing symptoms of the disease of your support group? Like if I can't type well, because of some kind of neurological disorder, or RA wrecking my hands, are they going to ban me because I can't type well? What about if I have early on-set Alzheimer's, and I forget I already posted on the same topic? What about if I have dyslexia, and I make a lot of spelling mistakes? A brain disorder and my grammar is off?
Being over the top, is part of being bipolar. I am sincerely working on being a kinder, gentler, person, but I am not always successful. Well, if you don't hear from me again, assume I am not just banned, but I have gone elsewhere. Remember, I really do like all of you, and I will not forget you. (Oh right that was the dementia forum!)
My apologies to all.
I'm going to be talking a break from DailyStrength. I need more mental stimulation and challenge than this site is unable to provide. It's also my belief is that adults should be treated maturely; That's not my experience here.
Thank you all for your support and kindness. I'll shall miss you. Should you wish to stay in contact, please let me know.
With fond love
Marion.
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They often will return again and again attacking those whom they *think* reported them. They make a real mess on boards when they do that.
Sorry to see you go Finoapip. I thought that at least some of the boards and groups are/were very challenging and stimulating mentally.
Not all people on here are adults - some are actually teens and others act like they are.
And for those of us who have been around for a while it is nice to have fun and fool around, really does help take out minds off our problems - the daily pain or disease that we live with 24/7.
I hope that you find somewhere that suits you better.
But maybe you will return some day in the future,
Till then "Sayonara".
by the way, do they notify you by your email or by a PM? since i never check my stupid email i wouldn't notice and wonder what "hail mary" reported me. what a crock of shit.
YEAH, I SAID IT. go back to your "poor me" self and whine. actually, why should i give two shits since if i am banned or wiped out it wouldn't be such a big deal, this board has gone to hell.
I think the whole banning thing is stupid! Oh yea.the trolls disrupt the boards.................and they get zapped and return 5 minutes later to disrupt even more.
Interesting that someone here mentions BP......makes ya wonder how many folks have it and are undiagnosed??......not on meds.........maybe don't even know they have it.
Also.how many different meds cause a bit (or more) of rage.......maybe some folks go off when they are on these meds (Like Riba Rage for heppers) and then once off those meds can cleared from system no longer experience this rage?? But they are still banned for life from a "Support Group".
The whole "banning" thing DS does, does NOT work.......its been proven time and time again........maybe DS needs to try another approach???????
Kid makes a good point in #41 saying the DS rules actually creates some trolls.....I agree 100% with this (like anyone cares if I agree or not).....but her point is valid:)
Everyone points here are value......but is DS listening??? Are they even bother reading this???
As DS doesn't read threads as best as I can gather - unless someone reports you, well you can get away with anything.
They do read the threads on here from time to time though.
In this country what they suggest we do (and I am not referring to those who are abusing DS by selling - soliciting people or kids for money, porn etc) - report and ignore - it is called dobbing, ratting'etc goes against everything we stand for as people. You do NOT dob!!!!!!!!!! That is lower than a snakes belly to do that.
I have never reported anyone on DS (apart from the above) just because someone says something I didn't like, and rather than do so I would just take the warning or banning
This is the ONLY EFFECTIVE defense against them. The ONLY one. THERE IS NO OTHER.
People report them, they get zapped and they come back with a vengeance..............over and over again.
Maybe if they were just left alone to express their anger and rage (or it didn't happen in the first place) .........they would just get over it and move ahead..move forward.........or maybe even move out.
But they way DS does it now obviously isn't working...............its time for a new plan:):)
"Give Peace a Chance" :):)
I guess there is always 'room for improvement', but I have been on DS for almost 2 years, .. and a CL for 'about' 1 year, and I know of no other/better troll control.
If anyone has any ideas, OTHER THAN DS changing a policy (because they won't), I would love to hear it.
Everyone is bitchin' about 'the driving' but they are not the driver. DS is the driver and it should be obvious they are not going to change ANYTHING. That brings the members to the limit of what DS does and provides .. what they provide is a freekin abuse form, feeback form, IGNORE feature and (for CLs) a 'close thread' feature.
That's it folks. That is all we have to work with. All the things members think DS 'should' do is great, .. but until they do it .. and they are not very likely to, we gotta quit wishing for something and instead use what we have ... and no one can convince me that what we have is used enough.
Jerk posts something .. SKIM OVER IT -- DRIVE PAST IT -- IGNORE IT. If they do it consistantly, PUT 'EM ON IGNORE so you won't even SEE their crap. How 'better' can that be??
Think they should not have an account or need a 'warning'?
Submit an abuse form giving EVIDENCE of why you think so.
Have a 'suggestion'? Submit a feeback form.
That's it .. that's all you have .. there is no more .. . I have literally been asked to 'report' bad behavior for someone else .. Christ, .. click on the abuse link and fill it out .. takes a few seconds.
TAKE WHAT DOES YOU WELL, GIVE WHAT YOU WISH, AND IGNORE THE REST .. followed by REPORT VIOLATIONS. There AIN'T no more you can do.
use the ignore button, the back button, your free will to go elsewhere, to not read something, to speak your peace, etc.
but i think banning is juvenile. and very frustrating when the reason isn't even known. it's like grounding a child,and not telling them why, and their friends not knowing why they can't come out and play "
wiped completely, like a computer virus, not a person.
to contrite, some of us miss you and wish ds would stop booting you.