I'd never ask for my picture to be rated. I'd rather live in my delusion. I think online dating is tough in general. It takes a thick hide and persistance to even exist in that arena. I believe I'm attractive (my pic is on this site) educated, loyal, funny, but even at that I get rejected too. It's just not easy out there. I've been dating since march and I've found needy men, ton's of men oh want casual sex, superficial men, men not over thier ex's, married men, men who want to be with women who are spontaneous and can travel (i've got kids)...It get's discouraging real quickly.

But then I ask myself would I go back to my ex ....I'll be happier alone anyday. Sigh

Hi Heavetoo,

I'll add my two-cents worth. First, I think you are very brave to get out there on POF. I don't have the desire or the courage yet. Good for you for moving forward.

Second, I have to agree with Czarna. The fishing pictures show one of your favorite hobbies but the hat hides alot of your face. I would suggest spending a little money and going to a professional photographer (heck, Sears, WalMart all have professional studios that take great pictures for a small amount of cash) and having some photos taken in casual clothes for dating. The pictures on POF show your professional clothes and hobby clothing but a lot of ladies are going to want to know what you look like on a typical Friday night date.

Third, forget about the rating system. Who cares! It's what's in the profile that counts. In fact, I thought you wrote a very good profile. You were straight forward about what you like and what you want and you don't sound needy or clingy.

Don't despair--fix those little picture glitches and hang in there. You'll find someone.

Peace and hugs.

Dating sites are interesting to say the least. You have to have a thick skin and be able to "just say no"..

I had a few decent dates from pentyoffish...but I met my "match" on Match.

Online dating has it's pro's and con's. I liked being able to get to know someone before we ever went out. It worked for me.

Good luck..and your profile is great. I would try another site.

Dating sites can be a bust.
Its not you. Many times just to find one person in your area can be near impossible.

I have been involved with the sites from the time that match first kicked off.

Here is a little advice.

You can't just use any picture.
You need to dess well without over doing it. we all have a good side for pictures, thats just nature.
Don't write alot of dribble in your description. Over doing it is a killer with women. If you are fun loving and social....thats ok just don't give your lifes history....
Women like to find out who you are a little at a time. Nice and slow acheives so much.

OK girls don't slap me.
Women want to be heard. So that means that we as guys need to be prepared to listen, ask a few questions and sit back and take it in. In person you don't need to dazzle, thats for the guys with no confidence.
Just show that you are actually interested in what they are saying and that you are actually listening.

Why do I bring this up.
Cause you will get some replies, in due time. It does not happen over night.
People are so busy these days and time on the computer may be limited.....unless its the dead of winter and there is not much to do. So when one does respond, keep what I said earlier in mind.
Once you figure out what works for you, and it will take some time, don't think you can put a profile out there that took you five minutes to write and expect alot. Not downing ya dude just trying to help.
Find one or two online dating services. But don't spend alot of money on it. None of them can do what they promote. If you have your profile on a local one and a national one you might do pretty well.
Believe you me I am not expert, but like I said I have tried them.
I found the best way to meet women...life!
Living and having fun.
I know thats a hard thing after a breakup. Especially cause the confidence level tanks after a breakup. But with practice it all comes back. Just don't put so much emphasis on you being successful at it. Remember when we were teenagers and just started trying to date....oh man
But regardless of the fear we went for it, anyways.
Ok enough rambling ....

Hope it helps in some way...

Good luck and God Bless

I thought your profile was very nice. If you were 20+ years older, I'd contact you.

well heave, youre better looking than me, but that doesnt take much.. however i do catch bigger fish than you..take care..i agree, you can have the best personality in the world, but the first impression a woman has (men too,probly) is the looks..just being honest

Personally I think I'm going to go for a prison pen pal program or something. Lots of lonely women in prison.

Aww Mc, don't try that one yet. You have someones attention on here and I don't think she has ever been in prison .. It was a great idea for me though, as guys in prison are kind of a captive audience and I might find true love there. You never know. LMAO..

I don't know, sounds like msde might be out of my league. =D I was just messing around because there was this thing on women in prison on the NGC today. I can always go to Wendy's if I want to pick up some hot take out. Yowza! =P

Okay...I need to post this under the picture....No fish were harmed in the making of this photograph.

I practice catch and release. I am big into live release because I am a flyfishing guide. Need to keep the fish in the stream for clients. I also force them to practice Catch and release. If you want to eat fish, go to the grocery store or seafood market. If you want to hang one on your wall, take a picture and have a reproduction mount made. That was a very delicate native brown trout in that picture. I can assure you that I took all the necessary precautions to keep him alive.

Enough of being on my soap box. I think that I may try a pay site.

Plentyoffish has been a big strike out for me. Most of the people that I talk with don't respond back. I think the whole separated things scares them off. The other part to it I am not really sure. I tried being straight forward and honest but I think that I am scaring people away with that.

Humor is nice, but I still think that people are looking at my profile and moving on for some reason or another. It is really hard to tell people who you are just by pictures and a little statement about your likes and dislikes.

I guess that the women are viewing me as damaged goods because of being separated. I was afraid of that but it would be untruthful to put myself as divorced because the divorce hasn't gone through yet (I might as well be divorced because there is no way that my wife and I will get back together).

This sucks

I just looked at your posting and I think your pictures are nice. You show you are a police officer, you have hobbies of fishing and riding horses.
Don't pay attention to that rating thing--it's obviously junk--you may not want someone who is so shallow that they would base their opinion of you on a picture!!! If I can remember from one of those forensic shows--Ted Bundy was considered very good looking, he was a serial killer.

I wouldn't sweat it too much man. Take fishing as an example. You can go out to the lake and spend all day there and not catch a damn thing. There's a lot of variables that can account for that - weather, water temperature, bait, location, etc. You can go back to the same lake another day with the exact same bait and the exact same spot and catch a bunch. That doesn't mean you were a crapy fisherman the first time, it's just variables. Yeah we're damaged goods, so is everybody on here, so are a lot of people out there in the world. You have to be patient and try a lot of different baits in a lot of different locations if you want a prize catch.

I'm better looking than Ted Bundy. I'm going to advertise that on my personals page.

"Better looking than Ted Bundy."

LOL - I tried to send you a message on plenty of fish saying I had some luck meeting people, but it said you're not accepting messages from people my age or gender. I haven't read the whole thread, but I would lose the fish & outdoor gear. I'm thinking women will see that and picture you out fishing and them home being mad. (I'm generalizing - I know there are some women fishermen out there). But hey - it's plenty of fish because you're trying to cast a wide net. :)

I added a few applications on Facebook such as "are you interested" not because I'm interested in anyone but I thought it could maybe make me feel a little bit better...it did for a few days. It boosts your ego when you see people really like you but then I started to feel so empty and even more alone and it ended up backfiring. I miss my ex even more because of it and now I'm stuck with a bunch of morons who won't stop asking me for sex on webcam!!! lol