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I believe that women have the control about whether sex will happen or not. Most men...not all, but most men are willing to do it at anytime, if not all the time. I have often wondered whether or not women use this "power" to get what they want from a man. This is by no means a woman bashing thread, but rather an observation based on my own experience with women. I believe that women control sex...
*uses Jaken's idea and creates song called "penis control."*
*pulls up chair and presses "on" button of videocam*
(wipe self off furiously)
That has not been my personal experience, nor does it seem to be the experience of many other women.
Also, I think there's a bit more to the whole sex thing than simply, did intercourse occur.
When I was with my ex, we had sex a lot, which was great, but I rarely got what I needed (more foreplay, him taking some time to focus on my pleasure, too, not just his).
So many times I lay there afterwards with the female version of blueballs, while he slumbered blissfully (this was the case with other boyfriends, too) -- so, no, I didn't feel like I controlled the sex.
(Yes, yes, yes I talked to him about it, I showed him, I gave positive reinforcement, etc. ,etc. -- nothing.)
Bleah. Most men don't know how to have good sex.
Last time I had mind-blowing sex, I was in friggin college. That guy even wanted to marry me -- and I said no.
Doh!
I would like to thank you so very much for this post. It has been enlightening.
God shows you just what you see.... when you need to see it.
Love,
JennyLyn
(pushes WheresMyHair in the mudpit)
(Pushes JennyLyn in the mudpit)