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Women control sex

Rman
Rman
I believe that women have the control about whether sex will happen or not. Most men...not all, but most men are willing to do it at anytime, if not all the time. I have often wondered whether or not women use this "power" to get what they want from a man. This is by no means a woman bashing thread, but rather an observation based on my own experience with women. I believe that women control sex...
deleted_user
deleted_user
the almighty cave does have magical powers
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bull freaking CRAP! I was rejected plenty of times in my marriage.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can bribe a child with candy, but only if the person with the candy wants to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Men have candy too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thank God they control it, considering the implications and outcomes that affect our bodies and futures more than men (in no way meant to bash men).

The use of sex to control a partners behaviour though, does work for both genders.

What I feel sorry for guys for though is, you have to do so much more work to pleasure your partner, than your partner has to do to please you.
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deleted_user
Good grief.
totallychaotic247
totallychaotic247
I think that women control sex bc men allow them to. My stbx would always try something when I was in the middle of eight different things. If I just cooked dinner, fed the kids, gave them baths, am now cleaning up the kitchen from dinner, why would he think that was a good time to ask to have sex? If he had helped with any of the above, maybe I would have been in the mood more often. For me it is also difficult to get out of "Mommy mode". When I am heavily invoved with something with the kids, I am not going to turn around and be able to have spur of the moment sex a few minutes later. Um, I think I will shut up now....this is a bit of a trigger for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Perhaps it's in the perception...sex....or lovemaking? Doing "it"...or seduction?

It's more about the presentation!

How about I put it this way...."clean the garage" or "get it ready for your new hot rod"? "Wash the dishes"...or "prepare for a feast tomorrow night"? "Rake the leaves"...or "let's make room for the snowman we are going to build?".

It's ALL about the presentation, my friend!
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deleted_user
The Bonobo monkeys, a close relative of man, is a matriarchal society where the female dominate the male and control them with sex. The Chimpanzee, also a close relative of man AND the Bonobo is a patriarchal society, constantly violent and agressive. The Bonobo is a peaceful group, the Chimpanzee, always at war. Just sayin.....
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deleted_user
Sounds like chimps are chumps... har d har har
deleted_user
deleted_user
hehe.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
all i can say is..you can't go in if the door ain't open.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I absolutely agree 100%!

Unless the guy looks like Brad Pitt or somebody hot like that.

Then the shoe is on the other foot, but for us average looking guys that's the way it is.....
Rman
Rman
Reply #14 provides some of the best advice I've seen on DS...
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deleted_user
R, you should have the word "user" burned into your forehead as a warning.