I should have known something was wrong when he left the house early one Saturday morning, without having taken a shower, and then came back (after supposedly going in to work to catch up while no one was there) showered.

But, what did I do? I just told myself that I was too sleepy when he left and didn't remember correctly. De Nile is not just a river in Egypt.

And then, there were the times that I called him to see when he was going to arrive home, so I'd have dinner ready at the appropriate time. Well, his phone was always busy. But, after I asked him why he was always on the phone after work, on the drive home, he IMMEDIATELY started calling ME every day as he left his office. I thought, "How sweet." ROFL!!! He was just getting me off his tail so he could talk to his lover.

I guess I should have known when he "walked" a mutual co-worker and friend home from the bar to our hotel when we were all at a work conference and according to him, she kissed him.....but he didn't tell me about it until after she flipped out on him the next week....and then the story changed again.....

...but to give a funny early sign on the same track as che2, I would have to say that it was when time and again I was send him to the grocery store for 3 items-list in hand- and he would never come home with all three!!!! he later said that it was intentional

He shined his military belt buckle with one of my new white T-shirts. We were not married yet. He never apologized for that. He just looked at me with that "so what?" attitude. I got the same attitude when I caught him cheating. He was selfish and self-centered even then, but I did not see it that way... Love is blindness.

I think when he asked me what did I contribute the the marraige besides cleaning the toilet.... I think he was pretty much done then. I guess standing by him in the middle of his breakdown, taking care of the kids, working at a job that made more than 2x his salary, and not leaving then wasn't quite enough... oh well.

I knew mine was over when I found a case of beer in the refridgerator, 1 week after his second trip to detox.. I asked his mom to take him in (she swore up and down she could do better at helping him than I could) and a week later she introduced him to someone new

Should've listened to "When Harry Met Sally". Women and men really can't be just friends!

I bought a boat one summer with my summer pay. The damned thing took up space in the garage for years and her never used it. Finally last summer he went fishing every weekend. Stupid me--I thought "Well atleast he's finally using the boat." Funny thing is he never brought home any fish. I guess that wasn't was he was fishing for.

Before we got married he took up a friendship on line with my best friend and spent just as much time persuing that friendship as he did our relationship. Once we got married, he used their conversations as ammo to find fault with me.

I am new - But mine may be that he has not come home till 5am, he says he is out drinking with his friends and will not drink and drive, He all of a sudden had to work on a day I was off ( normally we are off the same days ) but for some weird reason he never answered his cell phone, I found a receipt to the aquarium for 2 adults on that day, but he says it must be a friends he does not know how it got there and he now wants to move out and separate because he thinks it will be best.
Lives off his cell phone, its a big secret and has a myspace page that he will not allow me to see. Hmmm go figure. We have been married for almost 10 years and I am only 33.

Not one warning sign...She came home two weeks ago and told me that she was in love w/someone else. BAM!

when my ex made a decision diregarging my vote, and went ahead with it regardless. I lost hope of him ever putting anything first other than himself

Woah, now, this is fun...

Before we became a couple and were just friends:

1) He told me that he lied often to his gf (wanted to change that but was too late now)

2) Couldn't leave her even if he was miserable with her

3) Was spending a lot of time at work, even after his day was over

When we were together:

1) Couldn't freakin answer me when i asked him if he was happy

2) Spending time away from his house was a serious bummer for him

3) The way he was critizising me

Now, when i look at it from a bit more distance:

UMMMMM... HOW ABOUT THE FACT THAT HE LEFT ME 3 TIMES IN 7 MONTHS?????????? LOL

And yeah... all his BS about not being ready and all... he's on a freakin meeting site now....

nothing for my birthday

while in hard labor for 38 hours, my husband went home in the middle of the night because he was "tired"

oh yeah, intuitive, I know what you mean. the birth of my daughter was just really soooooo tiring for her dad, you know? I mean, he's just such a trooper! everybody says so!

wow! where did that solid gold vein of sarcasm pop out from?