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This board has become less about healing...

downforthecount
downforthecount
and more like a bloody tabloid. Okay, so "take what you like and leave the rest" but holy crap!

Who Cheats More?

Jesus this Jesus that!

I got more money than my ex!

I would never date a cheater!

I'm a better Christian than you are!

Man-bashers!

What was the worst thing you ever did to get back at someone?

And the ever popular, "it was all his fault because he cheated on me because I was perfect and my marriage was perfect and fuck you for even suggesting I look at what I contributed to the problem"

Can't anyone do any better than that? Even the support seems trite and contrived.

Sometimes this drivel makes the STAR look like a better read all the time.

I guess this is a sign thet I need to move on....where's the damn tylenol!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
There's definitely a lot less Jesus now than there was summer of last year, though.

We've come a long way.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow, you need a hug.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well down--if you want to see different things posted or better adivce--then I suggest you walk the talk and do so. Understand I'm not slamming you--Please don't take it that way, but I think that a lot of us (me included) think--geesh I can't believe that is posted--but we don't post anything so????
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you have sand in your vagina again Downforthecount?

Just joking, I wont deny that your comments are on the money but as far as I am concerned whatever helps people get through each day of the crappy, mind numbing, heartbreaking process is fine with me...
Tylenol is in the cupboard next to the refridgerator.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Jesus is definately one of those seasonal flavours. Try to relax more Downforthecount. People here are just going through their stages of grief and you are bound to get the same postings over and over again. Take a few days and see how you feel. Sometimes we all need to step back from DS to gain some perspective. Cheer up -(the tylenolis in the medicine cabinet beside the Antacid)
downforthecount
downforthecount
Shut up Cartman, I don't have sand in my vagina.
deleted_user
deleted_user
For some of us the drivel just distracts us from the loniness that we feel. It doesn't matter what the posting is, it makes us feel connected to something. also we can see that some of us are in better situations than other are. the main thing is if you don't like the postings then start your own. But then you have to deal with those of us who like to blather on about nothing. and don't know our ahole from our elbow.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can see your point when I read this thread its not exactly ooozing healing is it. Set the tone and they shall follow.
deleted_user
deleted_user
"are we slightly angry?"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Tana.

Not everybody needs healing every time that they are on the postings. sometime we just need the ability to post nonsense, to past the time and feel like you are a whole person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It was seriously bad. Like any time you'd post something you'd get 15 responses about how it's all part of God's plan and here's an inspirational Bible verse taken out of context for flavor.

Ah, memories.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree adams! some just need to vent....

Vent away down,,, we are here for you and I promise I won't pray for you.... lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well I'm feelin' the healin' from this thread, lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
The support seems trite and contrived?

If you notice, the majority of us are not professionals. We try to help based on our experiences. And for some, it's easier to give objective advice, while for others all they know is how to give subjective advice.

In this case, you're either part of the solution or part of the problem (re: posts that don't pertain explicitly to giving or asking for advice). And it seems as though,this issue has gotten to the point where you felt like this was on your mind and you spoke up about it.

But what are you doing to make?

Sometime we have to be the change we wish to see in the world ;)
solongbye
solongbye
Well the cheating part is interesting. Many of us had imperfect marriages and inperfect partners, we are imperfect ourself...but there is never a good reason to cheat, it is an excuse for those too weak to do the right thing. Most of us could have found a reason to cheat but thankfully there are still some people with values and morals. Look at the pain that cheating has caused to the children..did they deserve that too?