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Have you ever purposely tanked a date?
I went out on a date tonight. Met the girl on-line and she is local. She is a very nice person but I am not attracted what-so-ever to her. Kind of kills it for me because her profile said that she was average and she was much bigger than average. Yes, she was a nice person but I am not attracted to her at all.
During the date I can tell that she is interested in me. Problem is that I am not interested in her so I decided to tactfully attempt to tank the date. I started talking a lot about my ex and tried to do things that I knew would send warning flags up for some people. It didn't work. So I finished the date after dinner and told her that I had a headache (which I did) and that I was going to go home and chill.
Before I get home I get a text message saying she had fun and she enjoyed my company. Why is it that when I like someone and try not to tank it things don't go the way I want them to and when I try to tank the date the girl likes me?
I feel bad about doing this but I just am not interested in this girl. I am probably going to get blasted here because I say that I wasn't attracted to her even though she was nice but I am being honest here, she just didn't catch my eye.
Honestly, have you ever tried to tank a date like I did? How do you handle these things?
I went out on a date tonight. Met the girl on-line and she is local. She is a very nice person but I am not attracted what-so-ever to her. Kind of kills it for me because her profile said that she was average and she was much bigger than average. Yes, she was a nice person but I am not attracted to her at all.
During the date I can tell that she is interested in me. Problem is that I am not interested in her so I decided to tactfully attempt to tank the date. I started talking a lot about my ex and tried to do things that I knew would send warning flags up for some people. It didn't work. So I finished the date after dinner and told her that I had a headache (which I did) and that I was going to go home and chill.
Before I get home I get a text message saying she had fun and she enjoyed my company. Why is it that when I like someone and try not to tank it things don't go the way I want them to and when I try to tank the date the girl likes me?
I feel bad about doing this but I just am not interested in this girl. I am probably going to get blasted here because I say that I wasn't attracted to her even though she was nice but I am being honest here, she just didn't catch my eye.
Honestly, have you ever tried to tank a date like I did? How do you handle these things?
hey if it aint there it aint there..nothin you can do about it cept tank it
You shouldn't feel bad about tanking the date. You didn't lead her on, and you didn't try to take advantage of her. You weren't attracted to her and that's that.
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Yes, she should have caught on, but so many of us up here have broken pickers and she obviously does too. Why hurt a person for that reason.
I am just not interested in her romantically. She would make a great friend and I would be glad to drink a beer with her, just not attracted to her.
i say tank
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all you have to do is text her back and say you're glad she enjoyed it, but you really aren't feeling the kind of connection you're looking for (or something similar as others have suggested) and wish her luck on dating in the future.
texting makes it easy - you've only met her once, so there's really no need for anything more than a text or email..... just do it Heave!
So why not just tell her "how it is"..so she wouldn't get the wrong idea?
Why is there a need to even say anything or try to tank it?
You had a decent time regardless of attraction? You's got along before and during the date? So why be like that?