deep thoughts.. by rman

and this woman say's yep it suck's.......

I think you're right. I can't imagine one day waking up and saying "wow that was tough but I made it, I'm OK, I really can't remember what I was so depressed about".
I don't see that happening........

When you're in the thick of it...it is IMPOSSIBLE to see. I honestly thought there was no end and that it would always be like this, but I couldn't be more wrong. Therapy helped me in that sense. To always take things as they are and realize that things will always change....its inevitable. It does get better. Will you ever get over it completely.....I don't know. I still wonder if I'll ever get over the fact that this is life my girls will have. All I can do is make the best of what it is and move on.

Amen, FD,

While is is true, you never just get over it (walking around with a big D on your chest, it does get better. You just have to walk through the shit first. That is the suckiest part. Hugs

yep.

and, sometimes you do get over it.

it sounds like a personal choice to me.

I feel that way often, i dare not post here often 'cos i dont wanna put anyone on a downer, but it's been nearly three years for me.
Some days i feel great & others i feel no further on than when it first happened.

I know it has to get better sometime though, feel like i made a lot of bad choices in how i dealt with all this & i haven't helped myself very much at all at times.

I can imagine getting over it, but i don't think i will ever lose that sadness, for what might have been.

We all deserve better, i know that much. Hugs to all.xx

I believe sometimes you really don't get over it...just look at all the people on DS, who have been separated, or divorced for years now, yet still come to a place filled with misery and hopelessness. They use the defense mechanism of the them being here to "help" others, yet many of them are actually hurting others. I mean, I can't post here without the same people jumping in and giving their snarky 2 cents worth. And these are people who have been "over" the ex for years now.

sorry rman. i'll try to be less snarky.

I think sometimes people stay around on here thinking they can help when really they dare not leave. I have used this place as a crutch before, i had to leave for a while to try & sort myself out in the 'real world' (whatever that is!). I came back because i felt i needed some support and advice.

I do know what you mean though, some of the comments on here are really not nice at times. It can be off putting to say the least.
I don't post here that much, partly because of the above.

well, I guess my comment sounded snarky too.

i apologize for sounding rude, Rman.

You people aren't rude. The people who know what I'm talking about, know what I'm talking about...

I got over the first ex, after all it has been 10 years, didn't think I would be going through this kind of crap so many times in my life though. I would like to rip my heart out and throw it away. Have my brain fixed too, don't want to love anyone ever again. I thought I was ready for love and so I let someone in, let myself care about him and love him. Stupid me loving someone who doesn't know how to accept it or return it! I don't think I will get over this one.

No, you never get over it, but I'd like to get past it.

The truth without the sugar coating is Rmans giftIve never thought getting over it was possible, the scars will fade but they will never go away completely but today I think its survivable and life goes. Hopefully it can be a happy fulfilling life but only time will tell.