Isn't it kind of difficult to base a relationship that should be born of trust and honesty....on a lie? How can you be in a true relationship if he's not even confident enough in himself to admit who he really is, outside of his home?

A smiley face isn't indicative of everlasting love and you've not really said anything that describes you guys as being more than good friends....

Hi Brokenhearted!

I'm sorry you're hurting and in pain. It seems like you're a lovely person who really wants to find a good relationship.

First of all, most relationships start off with a BANG. It seems like he was the answers to my prayers, we have so much in common, he WAS so nice and loving...so yes...this is not unusual for fireworks and our "soulmate" detector to be exploding in the beginning. This is normal.

However you're not wanting to accept the reality of the situation now.

Just because someone responds to you, doesn't mean they want to pick up with you exactly where you left off. You are the one with the hope of rekindling, so you are going to read way into any response. I said it before, if we are analyzing every emoji, explanation poiint, or gif...we are grasping at straws.

He clearly has told you that he is speaking with someone else. I can't even hate on this guy, because it seems like he's doing the stand up thing by being upfront and honest with you.

There's no hidden agenda when he says he wants to be friends. I think he's keeping his end of that request by being cordial, responsive to your calls/texts...but because you still have feelings for him...you are clinging to every contact as "this is hope we will get back together."

I think he does care for you, as a friend, as he clearly has demonstrated and stated to you.

I don't think it's a question of being "out or not." Or the fear of a repeat of his last relationships. Those actually didn't come from his mouth...this came from yours. You are making excuses for him, as to why he doesn't want to be with you.

Instead of giving you a clear cut reason as to why he doesn't want to be with you anymore, you're left to figure one out for yourself.

Unfortunately, this happens to many of us. Rejection sucks...and being demoted to the friend zone is confusing especially when you clearly still have feelings.

So what now? Dude...you can't be friends with him with the feelings you have. You have to put a little time and space which probably needs to include no contact, and enough time where every text you receive you're not looking down and hoping it's him.

You seem like a geniune, kind, loyal, and loving person. You have to put that love you feel for him on the shelf. You have to take a breather from trying to be his friend (b/c we all know that's just OUR excuse to keep the foot in the door).

Stop speculating about his feelings, and accept the reality of it. Do some healthy self care and let this one go. It was not meant to be despite how fantastic it was in the beginning. They all start that way.

When you're ready...there is someone far greater out there...who will appreciate the love and loyalty you have to offer.

Sending you light and love! Happy Friday!

The candle that you have lit in your window - it does not matter what we say to you in this forum your gonna still have that light lit until it burns out on its on-even if you try to suppress it-it will burn in some other form-thats a fact.
So you can just love yourself through it and make it easy for yourself.
Allow yourself to come to terms with moving on.
Make Light of the situation.
The heart is resilient. It can take a hurtin" but regain its true form over and over.
Open your heart and mind to truthfulness and understand that truthfulness belongs to everyone and that guy has his own truth that destiny carved for him.
yes Light and Love to you showering you and guiding you along your way!

There are only a few people who can rekindle a relationship after a breakup ... and from sound of it you will not be one of them ( harsh I know ).
The mind is just used to notion of that person after having spent every min of a day with that person, we find it very hard to fill that gap !
Sometimes I wonder if I miss that person or the notion is that person who can talk to anytime anywhere
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When ever it gets too overwhelming reach out to people or distract with some Netflix .. it’s all about surviving each hour of the day !

If he Saud he us talking to another person, I'd say move on. It sounds like he's stated pretty clearly he us talking to someone else. Also sounds like he does have an issue with long distance relationship. Not to be mean, or harsh, but it appears he's made it clear, and is talking to someone closer to him. .and sounds like he's appreciated the contact and friendship, and views you as valuable, and so values the friendship you have. But to be honest, he's moving on,and wants you to as well. Find someone closer to you, enjoy life, if this were really an answer to prayer, it wouldn't be a question from either of you. He's being polite, but also quite direct. When God answer's our prayers(and he does)! There won't be any questions, or confusion. After all, God is not the author of confusion. Move on. God has a plan for you. Hugs to you and good luck!

From your post about him a couple days ago, it seemed that he wouldn't even define what you two were before. Kept saying he is enjoying getting to know you, etc. It seems that sadly, you were more into it than he was. And then he met someone else, etc....

I agree with the other replies that you need to move on. Holding out hope on someone who has clearly moved on or is no longer interested (not your fault! Maybe he doesn't want anything serious with anyone right now), will only cause you more hurt and pain. And love shouldn't cause hurt or pain. Try your best at No Contact, because being friends with him is not healthy for YOU at this point. Go out more, talk to people, set up some new dates here and there... just get out and socialize more. When you meet that special someone you will forget all about this guy, I guarantee it. Best wishes to you.

If you have true feelings for ex then don't stop yourself from being in a relation. Because in the end, you don't have to feel regret. See I will say it is your life and we are just here giving you possibilities so I mean you have to compare all what all are saying and according to it make a decision. Because what good/bad happens in your life you only suffer. Think from both side and make a decision and don't keep legs on both boats otherwise when will you down you don't know.