Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today I was doing so good. I was happy content. The kids went to see their dad for a few hours. They were actually excited to see him.
The last few days he has been texting me everyday to not go through with the divorce. He says he's changed. That he's a better person. I begged him for years to change but he never did. I can't trust him and I haven't ever really truly been able to trust him. There just has been so many bad things.
Today however all it took was one look from him and a smile. He was joking around. I saw a brief glimpse of the man I used to love. Thats what hurt like a bitch. One look and I want to crumble. One look and I wish he would hold me. One look and I just want to cry.
I'm pissed at myself that I let him still affect me like that. I hate that he still has control over me in that way. I haven't felt love to this man in forever. So I'm pissed that I feel this way.
I'm loyal to a fault. I have been separated from him for months. A couple of weekends ago my friend and I went out to the local bar . We meet some guys and wasn't ready to call it a night. One guy was constantly grabing my boobs, ass kissing down my neck when he said he wanted a hug. He would slap my ass. All these touches did nothing. My friend knows me and my past with my husband and the shit that happened before I was with him. She knows I shut down and freeze when that shit happens. So after awhile she stepped in and tried to stop it. It worked alittle. Another guy told me I need to just get back on the horse and end my dry spell. But anyway (sorry got alittle sidetracked). Even though Im not going to get back with my husband because of everything he has done, I couldn't go through with being with someone else. We are still married but separated and getting a divorce. I still couldn't do that to him.
He still has control over me. I just want my life back.
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I so exhausted from pain in my back that started Sunday but was mild and almost gone till I took bath that night and think I twisted or did something to take it to excruciating...I am away for work in a different state so traveled Monday and worked today then called my boss to fyi her about fact I am falling apart and walking like elderly person! I did telemed and they called in prednisone and...
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Can't wait to burn my pumpkin spice candle! National Coffee Day is coming up on the 29th so I hope to score up on a free coffee.
I don't think this is easy for anyone, but I can say that as a dad, there are some feelings and thoughts I simply didn't anticipate. No longer hearing your kids bs with their buddy over PBJ sandwiches about goofy stuff is the first that came through me. Next came a wave after simply seeing my soon to be ex-wife sleeping when I woke up in the morning with her little feet just outside the blankets like they have always been. Seeing those brought another wave of emotions over me.
There are little things that he is likely going through and just coming out the more and more he is not around to be a part of everything. The minor details in life matter to him, just as his smile hit you.
For me, it's important to remember that we came to the place we are for a reason, and not a lighthearted one. Always remember what's most important for you, then your kids, then see what else fits into your life. Don't allow yourself to become a victim, but also don't allow yourself to permanently shut something out that you think you may want.
If you two are better parents and better partners separated, that's for a reason. Emotions are very powerful and can lead us into ignorant directions.
Feel better, don't beat yourself up. It will be a brighter tomorrow if you allow it to be ;)