Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today I was doing so good. I was happy content. The kids went to see their dad for a few hours. They were actually excited to see him.
The last few days he has been texting me everyday to not go through with the divorce. He says he's changed. That he's a better person. I begged him for years to change but he never did. I can't trust him and I haven't ever really truly been able to trust him. There just has been so many bad things.
Today however all it took was one look from him and a smile. He was joking around. I saw a brief glimpse of the man I used to love. Thats what hurt like a bitch. One look and I want to crumble. One look and I wish he would hold me. One look and I just want to cry.
I'm pissed at myself that I let him still affect me like that. I hate that he still has control over me in that way. I haven't felt love to this man in forever. So I'm pissed that I feel this way.
I'm loyal to a fault. I have been separated from him for months. A couple of weekends ago my friend and I went out to the local bar . We meet some guys and wasn't ready to call it a night. One guy was constantly grabing my boobs, ass kissing down my neck when he said he wanted a hug. He would slap my ass. All these touches did nothing. My friend knows me and my past with my husband and the shit that happened before I was with him. She knows I shut down and freeze when that shit happens. So after awhile she stepped in and tried to stop it. It worked alittle. Another guy told me I need to just get back on the horse and end my dry spell. But anyway (sorry got alittle sidetracked). Even though Im not going to get back with my husband because of everything he has done, I couldn't go through with being with someone else. We are still married but separated and getting a divorce. I still couldn't do that to him.
He still has control over me. I just want my life back.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
I don't think this is easy for anyone, but I can say that as a dad, there are some feelings and thoughts I simply didn't anticipate. No longer hearing your kids bs with their buddy over PBJ sandwiches about goofy stuff is the first that came through me. Next came a wave after simply seeing my soon to be ex-wife sleeping when I woke up in the morning with her little feet just outside the blankets like they have always been. Seeing those brought another wave of emotions over me.
There are little things that he is likely going through and just coming out the more and more he is not around to be a part of everything. The minor details in life matter to him, just as his smile hit you.
For me, it's important to remember that we came to the place we are for a reason, and not a lighthearted one. Always remember what's most important for you, then your kids, then see what else fits into your life. Don't allow yourself to become a victim, but also don't allow yourself to permanently shut something out that you think you may want.
If you two are better parents and better partners separated, that's for a reason. Emotions are very powerful and can lead us into ignorant directions.
Feel better, don't beat yourself up. It will be a brighter tomorrow if you allow it to be ;)