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Over the past week, my ex girlfriend who cheated on me after almost two years of dating, contacted me saying happy birthday and continued to message me. She's been on this mission to give me my sweatshirt back but refuses to meet me when I am available. It has been a year since my ex and I broke up. She thinks I am in a relationship with someone else simply because I put a picture of a friend and I together up on this app. I do not know if she is still dating the guy that she cheated with on me. All of these emotions are overwhelming my brain. I have an exam on Monday and I feel if I don't take care of this situation soon, my test grade will suffer because I will be thinking of her.
I am in need of help on how to handle this situation in the least painful way possible for me. I have not actually seen/touched her since June and it makes me sad because I used to be a huge part of her life and now I am completely out of it.
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I've been feeling like I don't matter my wife the other day instead of telling me she was having a pain day when I went to have sex with her she tell me afterwards that she having pain day due to her fribromyalgia and making feel like shit afterward saying she has a list of things from past 9 years of thing for me to do and is always adding more and more to this list and talk...
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My best friend ruined my day with her immature, bitchy self. If she doesn't get her way, she has a tizzy fit. I told her weeks ago that I couildn't go to yard sales with her on 9/12 because i have a hair appointment. She wasn't happy. I also told her that I don't have any money to go to yard sales. She tried to talk me into going to more yard sales by saying that if I don't go, there...
"Get to know you more"?? Thought you guys were together before for 2 years.
"Eventually get back together" means she's not going to get back together with you, by the way...
I still maintain that all of this stems from her feeling jealous that she saw that fake picture and thinks you have a new girlfriend and that you have moved on from her. She sounds immature and insecure and you should watch out for any stalkerish and controlling behavior she may soon exhibit.
Oh, and what happened to the infamous sweatshirt?? :) Did she bring it?
Thank you for being positive and considerate. I apologized to her to help myself get better. I understand sometimes when people are hurt, they hurt other people ie she cheated on me. She has been texting me ever since 3 pm which is really different. As for the stalker behavior, there is no possible way that she can do that through social media because I have her blocked. She did not bring the sweatshirt because she "could not find it." She also told me that she has missed me and wanted to see me. I told her if she wants to get back with me, she has to be consistent and want to get back with me if it does happen.
TOTALLY played.
But don't worry; I will make no futher comments. Good luck.
I hope you go into this with your eyes wide open.
The infidelity needs to be addressed and dealt with. Don't sweep it under the rug or blow it off.
Try to take it slow and not just jump back in where you two left off. So much has happened. Best chance of this working and you not getting hurt again is both of you go slow, communicate about everything that happened, make the necessary changes, etc.
Not a good thing. You are her *side piece* and you can do much better for yourself than being in that position. I think just keep a lot of distance between you two. Don't always take her calls and don't text back right away. Even if you're not, make her think you are busy, that you're going out still, that you're living your life. The last thing you want is for her to think you are just sitting around, waiting for her to make up her mind which guy she wants, you or the other guy. Nobody should be in that position. Keep going out, date if you want, talk to other girls.