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cavahoo1215 09/05/2016

So we get home from the beach today. She helps get the kids ready for bed, then off again to work. We have been setting up a schedule so we dont have to be at home together very often. I drive for Uber so the evenings she wants to be home I go and do that. Its usually just extra money. I can do it or not it really dosent make too much difference. Now that Im going to be having my own place and all of the extra expenses Im going to incur I could really use all of the money I can make. So we talked today about setting up in her words a "fair" schedule.

She's not coming home tomorrow night SHOCKER!! So thats out. Wednesday is our youngest's birthday so we will be having his party that night. She tells me I can go uber after the party. The whole rest of the schedule is like this. So in total I get about 4 hours to try to earn money so she can have more time to "workout and hang". SO Im already mad about that. Then I just let loose with what I think about her iresponsibility and avoiding the children. She has the nerve to tell me that she shares in half their time now?!??and Im just trying to make her feel bad.

Make her feel bad?!?! After everything shes been doing for the past few months! All of this was her idea! This is what she wanted. Family and marriage be damned. She wanted her new life with her new man, which she continues to constantly rub in my face everyday with her actions. She wanted more freedom to hang out when she wanted too.

She has won. She has gotten everything she asked for. And she has the audacity to accuse me of trying to degrade her and make her feel bad. Oh boo hoo. Maybe the truth hurts sometimes. Her actions have hurt me worse than anything ive ever experienced on my life. I will never forget the pain, and betrayal I have endured. The days I went through life like a zombie trying not to break down in a puddle of tears in public or in front if the kids. All the nights crying myself to sleep, if there was any sleeping at all. The guilt she pounded into me time and time again about how all of this was my fault. I can see so clearly now what really happend and it had very little to do with me. I really dont know if I can do this for another 30+ days. I could move in with my parents but I really dont want to do that. Oh I hate this so much!

MTGrl 09/05/2016

Wow..what a....________. (add your own descriptive word)

kbbcoop77 09/05/2016

Like I said before I lasted 3 weeks with my ex whore wife. Then I had her go live with her mother..I wouldn't talk to her anymore go "gray rock".. Very businesslike, just about the kids, zero emotion..
Go read Chumplady . Com website about getting rid of cheaters and gaining a life. Don't engage her anymore she'll blame shift this whole thing onto you. My ex did the same. It's pointless

mirandac 09/05/2016

Rant away most of us have been there one way
Or another. I have no children so i did not have
That to deal with. I wish she would be the one
To go not you at least until you get your apt.

I stood my ground and he went to live with
His mother and then GF. HUGS

cavahoo1215 09/05/2016

Ive mentioned to her that she shoukd just move in with him. She acts like that would be so inappropriate. I guess she knows that if she did that then other people would find out about her fooling around. .

gem111 09/05/2016

I am so sorry, Just try and keep your sanity till you move out. Your kids will probably be more at your place than hers. I still say, she will get whats coming to her down the road. It may take awhile, but it never fails.

kbbcoop77 09/05/2016

"" I guess she knows that if she did that then other people would find out about her fooling around. .""

EXACTLY..it's all about image control for her. My ex waited several months before moving in with mr wonderful and still today tells our daughter she never cheated which is laughable. Even our daughter rolls her eyes at that bullshit and tells her "yeah right"...she's 19 so she can say what she wants to her as far as I'm concerned lol

strongandsilent 09/05/2016

Blameshift... That is a term I didn't know until my husband revealed his cheating. But, damn, did I experience it and fall for it. Do not engage for any reason. Just look right thru her. As a stay at home dad, you'll be getting spousal support yes? I absolutely get you want to be self sufficient... But.... Maybe it isn't a bad thing if,over the next month she is absent as much as possible. It will be easier on you emotionally., and it sets up a pattern of behaviour that could be useful later. Document!!

samantha717 09/05/2016

Remember at the beach today when you looked at her beautiful smile and had soft feelings for her? Yeah. Every time I found myself looking at my stbx and feeling bad about the divorce, he'd do something to shake me back into reality. This is all so much like my stbx. The world revolves around them and their image. My stbx acts like he invented the moral compass. Have you gotten an attorney yet? If not, make sure you get a good one. Also, keep a record of how much time she is actually gone from the home. That could be valuable info for your attorney. You mentioned moving in with your parents. Could they perhaps sit with the kids in the evening this week so you can drive?

mirandac 09/05/2016

My ex and his GF are coming out more now That
its been over a year. They have been Being quiet
up until now and are out in the open after the Proper
time. It must be in the cheaters handbook. HUGS

Selene 09/05/2016

I wish I had words to ease your pain. I knew this kind of thing sucks, I don't have any children but I know the guilt you refer to and the manipulation. You will make it through.

steppingovertheedge 09/07/2016

I feel for you! That was me last May (2015). I *did* move in with my parents, told my then-wife (cheating bitch) that we were starting the custody schedule RIGHT FUCKING NOW and that since she wouldn't do the decent thing and move out of our home, I was going to move out. And I did. I spent a month sleeping on the floor of my parents' house, in the bedroom I shared with my brother as a kid. Leaving behind a 3300 square foot house. Talk about moving backwards! And I brought my daughter there for the 50% of the time I had custody. She had a bed though. Anyway, it was worth it. It sucked, but it was better than living with that piece of shit excuse for a human. Do what you have to do for your sanity. Sometimes sleeping on the floor in a building with people you love is better than sleeping in your bed while someone who nauseates you is nearby. Also, of course, consider your kids. Truth be told, my daughter cried for a while when I told her I/we were moving out and would be staying with "Nana" until my new place was ready. But I put all that on my ex. The move was going to happen anyway - we just did it a month early and there were my parents around to help. Don't rule out moving out right away, is my point. Do whatever is best for you and your kids.

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