Your story is not to far from mine. Married 19 years and she had an affair...3 that I know of. I'm still learning to cope with the pain. 11 weeks now and I'm moving forward ever so slowly , but at least forward. The pain is real. I find talking to a therapist helps me. I'm forcing myself to go out and get exercise and eat right. It isn't easy but there is a great group of people on here for support. Stay strong. We will help where ever we can. -HUGS-

We can and do burden friends even coworkers, everyone
Has their own troubles and problems. And we often are a
Basket case and full of emotions and feelings.

Rejection is The first and then will come along abandonment
and Betrayal especially if there Is an affair partner or someone
waiting in the wings which can happen with a checked out spouse.

Keep posting, this stuff is all awful and hard to bear and face.
The grieving process can be long and hard. Divorce care helps
A lot with the grieving and the actual divorce process. Glad You
have some meds to help you cope and seeing your therapist.
Keep calling that number if you need to. HUGS

A lot of people are going through the same thing here. My kids are younger so I haven't had much time to feel lonely. But like the other posters said real friends will listen to you and stick with you. It also helped me to post here in middle of the night when I have anxiety. It's just a good feeling to know that you're not going crazy - this is a legitimate difficult time in our lives. Have you seen a therapist? Most of us here see one.

Yes I have seen a therapist. And am on some medication to help the anxiety and depression. The nights are also the worst for me. I am finding comfort from all of you knowing I can post and have someone to talk to. Thank you!

I have also found a great comfort in going to an in-person divorce support group. Just being in the same physical location as other people in your circumstances helps tremendously. You see faces, hear voices, see that you are not alone, and that there are tons of other 'regular' people who are experiencing many of the same emotions and difficulties as you. You don't even have to talk if you don't want. You can cry, curse, blab on and on and no one judges you, we just listen and offer encouragement. This is not Divorce Care, this is not religious or necessarily spiritual in any way. Go online, try meetup.com to see if you can find a group of some type near you. Mine is only once a month, but I find myself looking forward to the meetings. It also helps you connect with others when you find you're able to offer advice or lend a shoulder for someone else. Good luck, wishing you strength.

Question....is there a mobile app for this site? I have an iPhone. I looked but didn't find one. Thought maybe I wasn't searching the right thing.

I just use an icon on my phone, no app
That i am aware of. HUGS

Hi.. you are blessed. you still have your sons) I raised my daughter since ten yo. made the mistake of moving into a 2 fam house with x wife last year. my daughter is 18, now. one day i came home and they both moved out , and were gone. No contact, nothing. My heart is ripped out.

One day at a time. One step in front of another. Breath in and then exhale. Some people say to have a fling to get over your significant other. I say no. Be strong and develop new things to do with friends or by yourself.

I know how you are feeling, and I am sorry you are dealing with this. I was with my husband for 23 years. It gets better everyday, if you need to talk or just a listening ear - I am here.

Sorry for your struggles it's hard process and support is helpful. It's been a struggle for me but slowly progressing.

Much love to you all!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Xoxoxo

hi i am new to this sight too just looking for the same thing you are i wasnt married as long as you but i am a newlywed less than a year wich makes it harder for me to cope but i have been through heartaches but this one is hard for me to let go. i am trying to stay in the bible staying around positive people trying to figure out why i love men so hard just to be hurt by reading books . i know its not easy but just a feww suggestions if you have any please let me know

Feel your pain and it sucks! We don't deserve this, but we are stuck with it. I gave myself a goal for this month to help me begin to take care of myself. Counseling, a new church, Alanon and this group. A few weeks in and I'm sticking to it. It does help to be with others who know my feelings and heart. I've been closed off for years, trying to keep the peace with my husband, hiding my true self and pain from others, including myself. As hurt as I am, I must move forward. Daily tears, but I'm trying.

It is hard to learn to trust as it makes you vulnerable... and one day you will show your heart, but for now taking time to grieve the" old "you and get used to the "new" you takes time..change is hard.When all our children moved out..well i am still missing them too much..missing my old life..where i was in the here and now and enjoying it..but i remember strife too. Changes such as your life partner leaving changes a person..Believe in yourself its what I am learning to do Again and Breathe :)