I am so very sorry this is happening, as someone who used to be lacking in the communication field I can only imagine the tough time you must be having with him not talking. Is reconciliation off the table for him? Does he want to consider counseling?

I have asked him numerous times if we could stop the divorce and work things out. The last time he commented how would we even be together after all this.. Meaning the distance and him filing. I said we would start new. Keep talking make new goals and build a stronger foundation. He didn't for once say No he just went on with something else. He yells at me and gets so frustrated acts like it is towards me but he is actually playing mind games. Hugs me kisses me before work everyday and even tell me he loves me... I want so bad to save my marriage I have been trying for months. The divorce date got changed and i thought it would give me the chance to show him we can keep talking not do this until i got another letter from court saying it's been rescheduled sooner now than previous told. I don't know what to do we don't have an agreement and I wanna save my marriage but the mind games are affecting me deeply

Could he be seeing someone else perhaps?Sounds like his mind is pretty decided.So no you should not force it., because that is exactly what you will
get is a forced situation where he told you no and you felt more comfortable
being in denial than dealing with with focusing on you and getting yourself back to a healthy wholeness. Sorry for the mind games, and this entire
situation,Hugs

So sorry you are going through this. Remember that his "actions speak louder than words." If he won't work on it, then what can you do? Not much. Only can work on yourself. You shouldn't be tolerating someone who yells and screams at you. You did nothing wrong. He is the one with the problems, and they are internal and not much you can do to fix them. He has to be the one that wants to fix himself.

Hopefully things get better in your direction. Sending lots of prayers your way!! :) Just keep your head up and remember things happen for a reason. You need someone who can meet your needs (emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically etc.) and if he is not that person after all this time, then you owe it to yourself to let him walk out of the relationship. Respect yourself and love yourself. Keep moving forward in a positive direction always. Best Wishes!

I am sorry he is playing mind games, that isn’t healthy at all, he didn’t say no to counseling or saving the marriage, just keep trying to show him you love him and be bold at court and express your desire to save the marriage, judges deal with this all the time so they can discern well. Good luck

My husband of 37 years did the same to me, I love you Kisses in the morning and at night, Our Marriage was nothing but perfect So i thought We had everything, money, house, three grown beautiful daughters That had Great jobs. Then the questions of my past, which wasn't any Since weve been together since we were 17 The yelling Picking arguments. Then he would say I dont know what i want Back n fourth, It was crazy. Then he left for a while on work N i noticed he was talking to Ho bag in our family. I knew something was up. But he swore n still denies any relationship her two years later Still the same Of course i had him leave. Now i want him back dont know why? the only love of my life Ive seeked councling He wont, Ive been thinking of divorcing him But it hurts, Im broken, don't think i could ever love somebody like ive loved him. Pushing forward is a difficult thing to do....

I know this might sound mean and rude but people fall out of love everyday. It happens. You can not force someone to love you. They may have loved you in the beginning but only care for you now. If they come back you will always have your doubts if they actually want to be with you. It will hurt buy you must let him go.... it just was not meant to be.