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Mekia41
Mekia41

What does it mean if your ex calls or text you a after he doesn't hear me in days then out the blue he will show up at my house or text me last night after I got home from work out the blue he text me and showed up at my  house and wen I look at him in the eyes I can see that he loves me but wen we not in front of each other he can be real ahort nd cold towards me I really dont know wat is going on with this its like he don't want me to get to a point were I would let him go 

Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
It means he wants to keep you on the hook for post-relationship sex.
Snipsnipe
Snipsnipe
yep to what yard-eggs said
Mekia41
Mekia41
Yea thats wat I figured I actually said that to him him
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
You know you're better than that! Don't believe his lies. Remember last week when you posted and you regretted having sex with him and it really messed with your emotions. He wants the sex and not a relationship. You deserve better than that! He's an Ex for a reason.
Nicholas1993
Nicholas1993
I second all here. He's just stringing you along. You instinct is right. He doesn't want you to move on.
Mekia41
Mekia41
Yes that is so true Girlincalif and I was a wreck after that and vowed not to let it happen again and I haven't but wat I don't understand us y he doesn't want me to move on and be happy
jojored
jojored
He doesn't want you to move on from him BECAUSE HE'S NOT A NICE PERSON.

Do you think he's a decent guy? If you do, you'll probably keep falling for his tricks.
CoderMom
CoderMom
Healthy boundaries, good self-esteem, etc. You are worth a great husband.
Lostinutah
Lostinutah
If he really wanted you he would not be your ex. He may behaving second thoughts or feeling ssome regret. If you don't feel he treats you right then he needs to make some changes but if he is not willing to change then you have your answer.
gv14
gv14
Hello, I was going through the same thing with an ex of mine and at times I still find it hard to believe that he just gave up so easily but, I would advice you to stay strong and don't give in so easily. Your ex wants to feel like he has someone whom he can always go back to, but just close that door for him, move on. You owe yourself that. You do not want to be stuck in that loop over and over again. Trust me, that is no fun and it will just make you feel worse. Find ways to get your mind off of them and block their number if you have to.
Mekia41
Mekia41
Thank you all those are good words to go by and I'm doing just that there are times he is like his old self but then he can be cold and I am moving on if he wants me he will have to work for it and ahow me but for now I'm living my life for me and my kids its just us no man until I find the right one its hard but I know that I can do i will it will just take time to get over the love that I have for him I'm working on me now
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