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The girl that I have been emailing for the past three weeks and talking with on the phone and I had our first date on Thursday. Before I got home I already had another email and she was thanking me for dinner and said that she had a great time. We still were sending emails back and forth (been 2-3 a day between us) and I think that she is still interested in me.
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I am really crossing my fingers so hard that they are cramping at this point!
I personally would be freaked out if someone I had seen exactly once was figuring out my schedule, emailing me 3 times a day, and making plans 4 weeks out.
You seem a little over invested in someone you don't even know to me.
You talk about finding someone a lot. You aren't even divorced. Slow down.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=7YYplAoEdDs
I am happy with my life in the way it is. I don't have any one checking up on me. I do whatever I please when I please. I have fallen into a schedule where I go to work, get off of work and sleep, get up and work out, and then go to work again. Not bad.
On my days off I have been cruising my sailboat and having the time of my life. I was at a big party last weekend and it was amazing. I have already planned a big party for the next weekend with the same group of sailors.
I have removed my profile from Match.com. At this point I really don't care about that stuff. Then I get an email from someone I sent an email to a few weeks ago that I had all but forgotten. Next thing you know we were emailing back and forth. We had a lot in common and we started talking on the phone. After that we finally had a first date and it went really well.
Not saying that I am trying to tie this girl down already. Yeah, maybe I am being hyper-sensitive about this whole thing and trying to analyze everything (I tend to be an analysist by nature). It is funny but I tend to be someone who looks at probability and logic when figuring things out. I have a math type brain.
My schedule is really easy to figure out because I alernate weekends. I mentioned the whole thing because it always pissed me off when my family and friends couldn't figure out what I was doing when my schedule is so predictible. It is not huge feat for her to figure this out. It was just really nice, to me, that she did and she wants to do something.
Okay, that being said....I need to relax and just see where this goes.