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The girl that I have been emailing for the past three weeks and talking with on the phone and I had our first date on Thursday. Before I got home I already had another email and she was thanking me for dinner and said that she had a great time. We still were sending emails back and forth (been 2-3 a day between us) and I think that she is still interested in me.
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I have been separated for almost 6 months (Divorce should kick in during November). The relationship was dead long before the separation. I am not grieving that anymore and I have moved on.
It was funny because at first I felt like I needed to run out and find a new person. Then I discovered myself again. I realized that I didn't need to rush out there and that things would happen in the speed that they were supposed to happen in. When I started talking with this girl I really didn't care if I found anyone or not.
I am not lonely anymore. I am not desperately seeking companionship. My life is a great one and things have really fallen into place. I have my own group of friends, I like the fact that I only need to take care of myself, and I like my life.
It is not like she is planning out Christmas with me, Thanks Giving, and the wedding date. She is simply trying to figure out a time when both of our schedules will cross so she can visit with me. There is nothin bad about that and I wasn't asking about that.
I guess I posted this post to just get feedback saying that my gut feeling about this is right and that she seems interested too. Either way, she is well aware of my current situation and the fact that I don't have anything to do with the stbx and that the divorce will happen November (remember that I am very transparent and I hide nothing).
I have a date with her on Tuesday and we will just see how Tuesday goes. I really enjoy reading her emails and speaking with her. She is a nice person and there is probably some mutual attraction based on the first date and because we talk alot.