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The girl that I have been emailing for the past three weeks and talking with on the phone and I had our first date on Thursday. Before I got home I already had another email and she was thanking me for dinner and said that she had a great time. We still were sending emails back and forth (been 2-3 a day between us) and I think that she is still interested in me.
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I figured out our schedules and we are both really busy for the next few weeks. I outlined both of our schedules and said that the only time in the near future where we could get together (we had already planned after the first date to get together and cook together) was Tuesday. She asked me if I minded driving up to see her (1.5 hours). I told her that I would love to come up there again so she said Tuesday it is.
Here is an interesting thing to me. She figured out how my schedule works (it really isn't a hard thing to do but my ex never figured it out and she was with me for 3 straight years while I was on the same schedule) and said that I should be off on October 18 and she wanted to come to Culpeper to see me. We are planning to do something then as well. How cool is that?
So I was talking to one of my friends about this and he said that I am going to screw this up because we are planning too far down the road. Thing is that this woman and I are both planners and we love to plan stuff. She is planning these things just as much as I am.
None the less he has gotten me paranoid because I don't want to mess this up. Is it a good sign that she is making plans that far in advance? I am sure that she knows that I am very interested in her and I think that she is interested in me.
Is this all a good sign or am I getting my hopes up too much already?
I am a scheduler also,,, I date a man that has a very strange schedule (chef with his own catering company), therefore, the schedules have to be made months in advance for anything that I REALLY want. We have already scheduled Christmas... If it is not on the calendar then he will forget and schedule something else! Her figuring out your schedule does not bother me.
Her knowing that you are not yet divorced and moving so fast does bother me though. I am afraid someone is going to get hurt,, either you or her, who knows at this point.
Please be careful and don't put so much of yourself into this new relationship!
Hugs and good luck!
Good for you.
Sometimes people can read to much into everything and end up being a bit negative.
I say just be yourself and don't worry bout stuff. After a breakup most of us have a shield up. That can be a little disastrous. Keep it light an natural and have fun.
I think after a bad breakup were someones morals seem to go in the toilet a woman with morals sounds like a good thing.
Thank god women are more comfortable with asking a guy out these days. I think its a wonderful improvement in the opposite sex.
You are at the beginning stages. I think maybe your friend might be worried for you, because some people get so excited about possiblities they might smother a new person. So my advise make sure to give the girl some breathing.
Have a blast dude.
Have fun Heave, it is all about life experiences and you never know what will come of it...maybe a great friend?
Dont be paranoid.. planning in advance isnt a bad thing.. its organization.. especially if you both have hectic unusual schedules.. shows your both making the effort to spend time together
1. R-E-L-A-X
2. Don't listen to advice that makes you second-guess yourself.
3. Don't listen to advice that overcomplicates your situation.