Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been married for 2 years already, I was married when I was 18. Me and my husband has been having problem lately, he has been a cussing me of being unfaithful to him when I haven't. He has been over controlling for the pass months. I rally overwhelmed over this whole situation that even make me think of just moving out. Take note I been trying to make it work but it seem like nothing is working. What should I do at this point ?
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My best friend ruined my day with her immature, bitchy self. If she doesn't get her way, she has a tizzy fit. I told her weeks ago that I couildn't go to yard sales with her on 9/12 because i have a hair appointment. She wasn't happy. I also told her that I don't have any money to go to yard sales. She tried to talk me into going to more yard sales by saying that if I don't go, there...
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The Friday before Labor Day just before we left, the options given to me basically were either quit of be fired, and if I were to stay on I were to be put on an improvement plan, which is pretty much synonymous with getting fired. I was going to do the improvement plan and just ride it out until I found another job due to money and due to the fact that I did not want to quit without another job....
Do you have any idea why he started acting this way? Did anything at all change, happen?
And, did it start after you were married or was he at all jealous and controlling before you were married?
Also, keep in mind, and I say this not to be hurtful, but sometimes people act jealous and accuse their innocent partner of cheating... because they are cheating.
But please do not go looking for it, for you can fault in anything when we look for it.
I hope you are in school, and you should be focusing on your goals, what you want to do in life. Where you see yourself in your career. Focus on your work, on your health.
What are your hobbies, what do you enjoy. what do you love about yourself.
Stop focusing on him, you can not fix him,
Dont engage in his attacks, and if it gets physical get out.
I pray you are safe and healthy.
And will keep testing you until he gets help for it.
If he has self esteem issue it will only get worst.
If he is cheating, the other person can be putting press on him it bad ways.
Of course confront him with this is not going to help, and will only make things worst.
Keep focusing on yourself and caring for yourself and loving you just the way you are.
Most likely, you've mingled with someone who envies you in some way, and usually, this happens when a close friend or family member is passing judgment on you to hurt you for something they imagine you've done to hurt them. And oftentimes you've really done nothing - it's just the fact that this person is having low self-esteem issues. Have you ever heard the old expression "misery loves company"? What it means is that when a person is feeling bad or having a tough time in life, suffering painful emotions and hard or difficult times, these types look to upset the lives of others in order to feel less alone in their own personal misery, which sort of takes the spotlight away from their own tough issues.
I recommend asking for the names and faces of your accusors. Talk with your husband and ask to know where this damaging information about your character is coming from, and challenge these people on what's been told that is against you, ask for proof and honest facts, which I doubt that any will be able to prove that you've been cheating on your husband. These people are lying because they are way afflicted with their own private lives.
I hope for you to break free of the misery. I am sorry that this is happing to each of you. It is so unfair and unnecessary too.