I am sorry. This is very painful process. Sending prayers and hugs. Be gentle to yourself.

Thats hard and such a betrayal. Married people don't have opposite sex friends unless they are friends with both...or have been longterm pals before you meant you spouse.
If he won't do counselling you can. Do what you have control over, that's all you can do.

take a deep breath and give yourself some time to process what has happened. it was a long term relationship where you had plenty of time to get used to the same person, same routine and environment so its natural you will go thorough some anxiety and stress. try to consciously calm your thoughts/mind and remind yourself changes are coming not the danger and that you can and will live well, only problem is you need to give yourself some time to adjust to forthcoming changes that will happen during and after divorce. cardiovascular exercise is great way to burn stress and can help you calm down a bit afterwards so you should try and maybe some couple of days getaway or some sort of retreat to organise your thoughts and process what is happening and make plans so that you are no longer making any loss or not being cheated on in any other area of your life because of your ex-partner (like kids custody, financial asset etc...). you will have a life and will continue after divorce, you need to focus on the future and protect yourself.

My situation is very similar to yours. I know it’s hard in the early hours. You don’t want to bother friends and the thoughts run rampant. Come on here then. You’re bound to find someone up. And we understand. Hugs.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I too, am recently separated after 25 years of marriage. Though ours was a mutual decision, I was still devastated for the first several months. I did not believe others when they told me 'in time you will feel better', but over the last 10 months, there have been some very good days - and yes some bad ones - but nothing like in the beginning. Honor yourself, love yourself and take care of yourself. You will get through this. God has a plan for us all. People come and go in our lives at exactly the right time they are supposed to. Believe and trust and pray. Warm thoughts and prayers your way.

I will never forget the day my husband sat down on the couch next to me and told me he didn’t love me anymore and left. Our boys were only four and seven. :’( I was devastated!! and heartbroken. I still loved him very much. I am so sorry!! you’re going through this. <3 Big hug! Have you considered attending DivorceCare? You do not have to be going through a divorce to go and it’s a wonderful program! I highly encourage you to find one in your area. They’re offered nationwide :) and it put me in touch with other women who were going through the same emotions I was. Some became lifelong friends. =) It also gave me the tools I needed to start the healing process. It can help you too. Don’t give up! Have you considered talking to a local pastor or seeing a counselor yourself if your husband won’t go with you? I did both. I spoke with my pastor and I saw a Christian counselor. They gave me the support I so desperately needed and they gave me good, sound advice. Maybe they can help you too. :) A book that brought me great comfort when I could not sleep at night was, “Come Away My Beloved”. It’s a beautiful book and an easy read. The book helped me so much I gave a copy of it to everyone at my DivorceCare table and they all loved it. You can find it on Amazon. :) I hope this helps!! You are not alone!! I will be praying for you. I’m so glad you reached out. :)