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my stbx biggest complaint was about sex. He got sex about twice a week, although usually on the wekends. I did not turn him down if he wanted it, I didnt play dead, I just couldnt get anywhere personally . Too tired with work, housework, and toddler. He never helped me in the housework or toddler department so I wouldnt be tired.
So, I just want to know honestly. Isn't twice a week pretty good ? We were married 20 years.
He started watching porn most nights. I think he's a sex addict. Or is it just me and my lack of sex drive?
So, I just want to know honestly. Isn't twice a week pretty good ? We were married 20 years.
He started watching porn most nights. I think he's a sex addict. Or is it just me and my lack of sex drive?
Perhaps because of the way that you typed or use language, but you used the phrase 'he GOT sex about twice a week'.
I never GIVE sex. I try to enjoy sex with someone as a shared, wonderful experience where both parties achieve the most pleasure that they can from the experience. For me, sex is SHARED, only as a give and take, never just a give.
I sense resentment in you. I believe that the next step in the process after resentment is rebellion. Giving of your body begrudgingly, not seeking your own pleasure, is almost a rebellious act. After rebellion is separation, which it looks like your husband has already started by looking at porn instead of looking at you.
I can understand the source of your resentment, and I sense a lack of self-confidence and a lack of self-respect.
I wish you every success in seeking to resolve the cause of the resentment, and his willingness to be a party to the pair of you agreeing the load, who does what, fairly, and with love.
when sex becomes an effort, it's history
so true.
Since separation 7 months ago. Still waiting.
But I would like something closer to my sex drive, realy, because I believe that over time it creates a lack of balance. Once a day would be great. I am now dating someone much closer to my sex drive (quality and quantity), but sex alone means nothing. Al other things need to be there as well.
Mind you that I had no kids and we both worked, so the circumstances were different.
Nowdays, my bf sees porn when I am not around and he does his thing. We live in different cities, but I like that he tells me about it. But when we are together, there is plenty of it and good quality. In most cases, you just don't want more because the quality is not there. My 2 cents.