OMG, twice a week would have been great.

Sex always made me feel much closer, and it seemed to have a way of softening the little things that sometimes bugged me.

3 times a month maybe

my ex and I didn't have sex for the last 15 months, more than maybe 3 times, but that's cause he was getting it elsewhere as I found out.....but before that it was like 3-5 times a week......

Daily.

Sorry, but every night when he was here. Sometimes more. But it wasn't always like that. It was at least teice a week though for sure.

Twice a week would be great! My personal minimum to keep me happy is once a week.

Nowadays though I can't even manage a closed mouth kiss.

In the beginning, constantly. Multiple times per day. Near the end, hardly at all. I read somewhere that women need to feel close to have sex and men need sex to feel close. But perhpas that is oversimplying it.

There is some truth to what you say Nova or at least for me there was. When I found her pulling away toward the end of our relationship, I found the need to be intimate, not just sex, which came across as needy. Not something I have ever cateorized myself as. That said we were still having sex 3-4 times a week.

When I was married, we had sex regularly. Almost on a daily basis. If it was only on the weekends then we went at it about 3-5 times. Since being divorced it isnt as often.

novacandycane, I think that generalization is pretty close. Though I can say that lately because I'm not feeling very close, it's harder for me to get in the mood also.

We've gone more than a year at a time without and currently it's been about 6 months. In the best of times it was maybe 2x a month on average. I would have loved to have it 2x a week. As it was, I let her convince me that we weren't that far from normal and I was being unreasonable in wanting it more often. (She even got upset at me for masturbating - and if I did it at all she preferred I do it in private.)

The last year has really opened my eyes to reality. While I had grown accustomed to our relationship as it was, I now feel more resentful by the day.

While we may be wired a little differently, I think both men and women need to have sexual intimacy as part of a healthy marriage.

Not nearly enough for me! lol Before he left, maybe once a week and only because I initiated it. (just before he left, I found him in front of his computer doing.....) I'm sure he did it daily. I don't take it personally anymore. He was messed up.

I'm embarassed to answer this but rarely more than once per week and there were dry spells that lasted months. It was not because I was turning anyone down either. I don't think women understand what this will do to a man. One of the worst excuses that you can give is to say that you're too tired. If you're too tired for a few minutes of sex twice a week but still have energy for other things, then it appears to the husband that he is the lowest priority in your life.

OMG how long did the baby stay a toddler? Twice a week for 20 years? or eventually twice a month?

My ex and I got together twice a month. It killed me and eventually killed the marriage. We didn't have babies around the house not even a gold fish and I couldn't get any.

Very good point Steven.

steven just hit it out of the ballpark.