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Going through a tough breakup.

lifeakameme
lifeakameme

Hi. I'm a new member. This is my first time. Few days back my ex broke up with me. I tried to contact him. He blocked me. We were together for almost 3 years. I miss him. I can't think of anything else. I have done a few mistakes. I didn't gave him that much importance. I realised it after our breakup. I have never been miserable in my life. He is my first love. I really love him. I never thought I would fall in love or breakups would be tough. Well now here I am, I can't focus on anything. I miss him so I start imagining conversations with him. What would he say about this that etc. I can't eat, sleep properly. I had an exam 3 days back. In the middle of my exam I got stuck I couldn't write all I could think of was how to meet him and when I will meet him I want to say this that etc. He still has feelings for me ik that. But I broke his trust and now he hates me. He called me last night. I had an exam today and well I skipped it. Last night he called me and said you are mature enough to get your life on track. I am gone far far away. And I am never gogigoin talk to you after this or meet you. Again and again he kept on saying this. He said a few things that hurt me. I had a headache. I felt like my head will just explode. In the morning I got ill. I want him back but I don't know how. This thing is controlling my mind. I can't think of anything else. It's killing me now. I just want to talk to him. My life is very messed up. I want to get it on the right track. I love him and I am waiting for him But meanwhile I also want a control over my mind and my life. I don't know how to focus on other things. 


GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Seems like he is pretty angry. As hard as it is, give it a few days. Think about what he says he is upset about. Think about what you will say the next time you talk to him. Think about if you did something to harm the relationship and what you will do to fix that, going forward. I know this is tough right now. Don't let your grades slip because of you being upset. It's just a few days. Let things cool off a bit. Don't contact him at all. He needs to "miss you". Let us know how it goes?
lifeakameme
lifeakameme
Yes he is pretty angry. I am trying to fix things. I thought I shouldn't contact him for a few days. But I am also worried what if it just increases the distance.
lifeakameme
lifeakameme
In his life someone else also broke his trust and till the day he cries for that person. But he is not ready to talk to them. It's been more than a year. I am worried. What if he also never talks to me.
This thing is controlling me right now. I want focus on my grades and my health but I just can't. I have tried but I just can't stop thinking about him.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Yes, I understand. And, it's all you can think about right now. But if you truly want this to work, things probably need to cool off for a little bit. I actually think more than a few days would be better, but I'm thinking you could only wait a few days. A few days of no contact is not going to ruin anything. It can only help. Sometimes some men need some time apart to process and think about things. About how old are you two? Spend these few days thinking of what has occurred between you two, and what are you going to say exactly when you do talk again? Write it out. Read it to yourself a few times. Something has to change, and so I suggest that you take this time to think about which things need to be changed for you two to be stronger together.
Don't compare what you two have to his ex girlfriend. Not the same in any way.
lifeakameme
lifeakameme
I am trying not to contact him. Today there was a function and chances were that he was going to come there. So I stayed home and now I am regretting it. Maybe I should have gone at least I would see him.
lifeakameme
lifeakameme
From others experience it seems like it will take me a few months to be normal and control my life again. I couldn't bare one night I don't know how will I survive months.
Nicholas1993
Nicholas1993
At first it will be incredibly hard, you won't be able to sleep, eat, or focus. But going no contact and focusing on you, it will improve slowly. We all make mistakes. We can't change the past. Just learn for the future. Give him space and time. Give yourself space and time than see if it's what you want.
kplover20
kplover20
This is one of the hardest things to go through in life, in my opinion. It can feel like it's your whole world, which it sounds like that's kind of how you feel. I've been there. I've broken someone's trust before and felt that sinking feeling that you don't know if you can get it back, or if you'll be given a chance. Just hang in there, and I don't know if you're a person of faith, but I'm praying you find strength to make it through. It'll happen with time.
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